My first appointment today is a lady, late 30’s, divorced, educated, self employed and she has no predetermined long term goals as far as a relationship is concerned.
She said “The only way to be sure I will not be divorced again is to never get married again. However, I guess someone could come along and change my mind.”
She knows she wants one special man and a monogamous relationship that could last “til death do us part”.
She is fit and active and enjoys much of what outdoors in Colorado has to offer.
She said “I am from the west coast and I miss the ocean but I have learned to love skiing, biking, hiking, snowshoeing, camping and I am still amazed at the crazy weather and how it can change so quickly.”
She also enjoys concerts, art and wine festivals, cooking, reading and traveling.
She said “I want to travel outside the country but there is still so much of Colorado I want to explore.”
She has a great sense of humor and we laughed a lot in the interview.
She said “A sense of humor very important to me. It keeps me from taking myself too seriously and I like to laugh.”
I shared information with her on three men I think are good matches for her and she was surprised how compatible their scores were with hers.
She said “Donna, I am going to give you this job of finding the right man for me. I cannot believe how you nailed me with your little profile test and how you pulled these men out of your files off the top of your head. I think this will be fun.”
If you think it will, it will.
My second appointment today is a man, mid 60’s, divorced, and his long term goal is marriage.
He said “I tried the online dating but it took too much of my time. I am on a computer all day at work and the last thing I want to do when I get home is sit in front of a computer.”
He is fairly recently divorced and feels like he is ready to start dating.
He said “My marriage was over a couple of years before it was over and I know I am emotionally available, as you put it, to move on.”
He enjoys hiking, mountain biking, skiing, movies, live music, especially jazz, and events at the Pikes Peak and Fine Art Centers. He has an interest to travel and would like to put more stamps on his passport.
He is a strong believer and has been on many mission trips.
I said “Your scores are unique because religion and conformity usually go hand and hand and, although you are an 8.5 in religion, you are a 5 in conformity.”
He said “I identify with that difference. There was a time when I had my wild and crazy days but my faith is the most important thing in my life, and something I definitely want to share in a relationship.”
At the end of the interview he said “Can I think about this and get back to you on Monday?”
I said “Let’s see, do you have a “think about it” score?”
I pointed to his temperament score, which is 7 and said “Yes you do, so you can think about it.”
He laughed and said “It is scary how much you know about me because of these scores.”
We also realized as he was walking out the door that we have several mutual friends.
He said “Colorado Springs is so small.”
Don’t I know it. This happens all the time.
I definitely think he will “be back”.
I had to give the “teeth talk” again today. Teeth are the one physical thing men and women notice more than anything else. I always try to be very diplomatic and tactful and I usually say something like “It has come to me in feedback a couple of times that they think your smile would be so much brighter if you whiten your teeth.” For most people it is such as easy thing to adjust and it can make a huge difference. Most people do not have to go to the dentist. You can buy what you need at the grocery store. Just sayin’…you might want to add Crest Strips to your grocery list.
To be continued…………….