April 3, 2013

My first appointment today is a man, early 50’s divorced, grown children, and his long term goal is a serious monogamous, relationship, possibly marriage.
He said “Most of the ladies I have dated in the last few years have definitely wanted to be married, but to the point that it felt like there was no other option. I can see myself married again, but I don’t want it to be a requirement, or an ultimatum.”
I said “My experience is that marriage become less popular in the last few years, especially in the 50’s and 60’s. The more preferred options seem to be living together, or maintaining separate residences and staying in a committed relationship. I have one couple who bought houses in the same neighborhood just two houses apart and they have been together for 12 years.”

He has been trying the online dating services for a couple of years and his complaints are the same I usually hear about online dating: time consuming, ineffective, they don’t look like their pictures, they don’t live here, and they are not honest about the information they share.
He said “In the beginning I felt like a kid in a candy store, and I was so flattered by all the attention, but the reality was I wasted a lot of time meeting ladies I was not interested in or attracted to.”
He wanted to know if I would show him pictures of the ladies I think are good matches for him.
I said “Most of my clients give me permission to show their pictures but I prefer not to show pictures because most people don’t take a good picture. I have a good eye for picking levels of attraction and I understand the match probably won’t go to romance if there is not a mutual physical attraction. I suggest you trust my judgment and if you do not find the first two ladies I matched you with attractive, I will show you a picture on the third match.”
He agreed.

His interest and activities include golf, hiking, cooking, movies, concerts, traveling, spending time with family and friends, and he loves to dance.
He said “A great date would be to have a wonderful dinner with fabulous wine and then dance the night away.”
I said “I am sure a have a few women who would also think that would be a great date.”

He is very outgoing, an “8” on a scale of “0” to “10”, and he appreciates a lady who is comfortable in most social situations. He is also an “8” in affection and a physical relationship is very important to him.
I said “With your scores, I will be matching you with ladies who are also very affectionate.”
He said “Sign me up.”
I had a match set up for him two hours after he walked out of my office.

I had an email today from a client who has been dating a lady I introduce to him in July of 2011. He had become a client in May of 2008. He was 29 at that time and now he is 34. He is the nicest man, and it was very fulfilling for me to finally find his perfect match. This is why I don’t put a time frame on my service. It only takes ONE right one and timing is everything. He was her second match and she had only been a client for two months.

Message: Hi Donna. Sorry I haven’t contacted you in so long. Time flies when you are having fun I guess. Just wanted to drop you a note and let you know that (_____) and I are still going as strong as ever. Our relationship is absolutely amazing. She is still in Pueblo and I’m still here in the Springs (actually Monument!) but that has never seemed to be an issue at all. We still are able to spend about half of each month together and have taken several trips together. I’m so thrilled you matched me with her. I know I wouldn’t have met somebody this perfect for me on my own. I’m excited for what our future may hold. I still read your diary regulary. Sounds like you are as busy as ever. Hope you are doing well.

Needless to say, it made my day!

To be continued………………………….