February 13, 2013

My daily diaries have been MIA for the last week. I got the awful crud that so many people have had these last few weeks and, for the first time in my life, I lost my voice. My entire day consists of being in interviews or talking on the phone. The ironic thing was by the time I lost my voice I was feeling better. I was so determined not to let it affect me that I talked until I couldn’t talk. End of story. I had to shut up to get my voice back.

My first appointment today was one of the most enjoyable interviews I have never experienced. This gentleman is mid 70’s, widowed, and had the courage to call a matchmaker. I knew when I spoke with him on the phone that he is quick witted and on the ball. He does not look his age and he had so many “one liners” I had to write some of them down to share with you.

He was happily married for 50 years to a lady he loved with all his heart. Shortly after they married, she put on quite a bit of weight.
He said “I used to tease her that she was waiting to get married and then she just let it all go.” They had three children and with each pregnancy she gained more weight.
He said “I didn’t give a rat’s ding dong about her weight because she was a good woman and a good mother and our sex life was always great.”

He has been widowed for less than a year and he has gone out on a couple of dates.
He said “My friends and kids tell me it is too soon to date but I enjoy the company of ladies and I don’t like being alone. As far as sex, the old boy’s gone, but I still enjoy female companionship.”
I said “Generally speaking, they say it takes one month for every year you were married to be ready for another relationship.”
He said “Damn, Donna, I’ll be dead by then.”
I laughed and said “I knew you were going to say that, but it’s not every day I interview someone your age.”
He enjoys dining out, movies, loves going to events at the Pikes Peak Center, and is open to new ideas and activities.

I shared information with him a few ladies and when I put the price list in front of him and asked him if he was ready to make a decision he said “I didn’t come all this way for nothing.”
He is now a new client and I am very excited to have the opportunity to introduce him to some quality, compatible ladies and get to know him better.

My second appointment is a lady, mid 50’s, divorced, self employed, has grown children and grandchildren, and her long term goal is marriage. When she walked into my office I did a second take. I thought there was no way she could be in her mid 50’s. She is very petite and cute as a button.

After her long term marriage ended she tried one of the online services and ended up marrying one of the first men she met.
She said “We dated for over a year but the night of my honeymoon I knew I had made a mistake.” Long story short, the marriage ended pretty quickly. I wish I had a dime for every time I have heard this story. She had no basis of comparison, and believed him when he told her she was the woman of his dreams and everything he had hoped to find.
I know I have said it a thousand times, but 99 out of 100 times, the ones that start fast, end fast. There are always exceptions to the rule, but when someone is telling you they love you and they don’t even know you, you are either very lucky or very naïve.

She said “I trust too easily and I see the good in everyone. I want to be married again but I don’t want to make another mistake. I am going to trust YOU to help me find the right man.”
A friend who has known me for over twenty years met her by chance and referred her to me.

She is very active, and enjoys running, hiking, biking, boating, gardening, movies, music, the arts, and she would love to travel.
Her first match is going to be a man I know well. He is very compatible, has many shared interests with her, has the similar long term goal to be married, and is one of the nicest men I know.

Our meeting ended with a hug. I am going to help her find a man who deserves her kind heart and sweet spirit.

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone!
If your Valentine is missing, you should give me a call at 260-1000!

Too be continued………………