January 17, 2012

My first appointment today is a lady, mid 40’s, divorced, highly educated, grown children, and her long term goal is marriage. She is smart, smart, smart. She married very young and had her children in her early 20’s. She decided to go to college and a few years and a couple of degrees later she found the courage to leave an abusive marriage. Her next marriage was to a very nice man, but after 20 years and a couple of more degrees she found herself unfulfilled with a man who had no ambition. I understand how important intellectual compatibility is, and although that is not necessarily connected to a level of education, it is important to be intellectually stimulated, especially if you are highly intellectual.

She said “I don’t care if he is bald, somewhat overweight, or not so good looking. I am more attracted to a man who is ambitious, confident, and has no baggage.”
I said “What do you mean by no baggage?”
She said “Someone who has dealt with his past and accepted it.”
Someone who has honor and integrity matters more to her than anything else.

She enjoys walking, running, hiking, movies, dining out, discussing history, philosophy, and traveling. She has been to Japan, England, Singapore, Greenland, and would love to go to China.
She said “I see pictures of the beautiful mountains in China and they look so different from the mountains in Colorado. I would love to see them with someone special.”

If you are interested in seeing the mountains in China with someone special, you should give me a call.

My second appointment is a man, late 60’s, widowed, highly educated, grown children, retired, and his long term goal is marriage, with a prenuptial.
He said “At this time in life there are things that need to be protected, and I would expect no less from a lady I might fall in love with.’
He shared with me his love story about the “love of his life” and it almost made me cry. I told him he was very lucky to have experienced that kind of love because he will not settle for less as he continues to look for next love of his life. He agreed.

I am so accustomed to men his age preferring to date younger that it was refreshing to hear him say he did not think it would feel comfortable to date someone more than ten years younger, and he will date up to his own age. He is also open on his height preference, race and many of his other preferences.

As far as religion, he said “What matters to me most is someone who believes in love, forgiveness and gratitude.”

Although he is retired, he is actively involved in many organizations and feels strongly about giving back to the community.

Fitness is important, and he prefers a lady who is physically fit and active. He enjoys working out, biking, theaters, concerts, plays, reading, is open to getting back into skiing, and he loves to travel. He has traveled all over the world and has an interest to visit many, many more countries.

He is very easy going and kind hearted and I am delighted to have the opportunity to help him find the next love of his life.

My third appointment is a lady, early 60’s, divorced, educated, self employed, grown children, grandchildren, and, although she is a strong believer, her long term goal is not necessarily marriage. She said “I would consider marriage, and although I am a strong believer, I would also consider living with someone or maintaining separate residences.” I told her that living together or maintaining separate residences has become the most preferred option in her age range.
She said “Friendship and companionship are what matter most to me.”

She enjoys reading, music, concerts, plays and hiking. She has traveled all over the world, and has an interest to continue to travel.

She had scheduled an appointment to come see me a year ago but she cancelled because the timing was not right.
She said “My other obligations have fallen into place and now I have time to make my personal life a priority.”
Timing is everything.

On a personal note, my sister is going to be taken off life support if there is no change by Friday. This has been such an emotional roller coaster, unlike anything I have ever experienced. I am not ready for her to be gone, but she may already be gone. We will know by Friday. I so appreciate everyone’s prayers and support. Additionally, my Dad returned to Colorado on Sunday from his five months in Florida to see if he can tolerate the altitude or has to return to Florida to survive. He has been living with my brother who is here with him and has agreed to stay for three weeks for Dad to decide if he stays or goes back to Florida. Family…don’t take them granted, you never know when they will be gone.

To be continued…………….