My first appointment today is a lady, mid 30’s, divorced, educated, her long term goal is marriage and she would consider having more children. She has shared custody of two preschool children.
She said “I know it will be difficult to match me considering I am a single mom with two young kids.”
I said “Every mother I work with is a single mom and I know the men who will be open to your children. That is another way I screen for you.”
She has just started to date and she is in no hurry to get married. I met her a few weeks ago at a networking breakfast and gave her my card.
She said “I enjoy reading your diaries on your website and I appreciate having someone like you serving as a filter for me. I wasted too much time on the internet meeting men that were not even close to a match.”
She enjoys museums, bowling, socializing, dining out, concerts, theater, an occasional hockey or baseball game, and traveling. She is a strong believer and would like to meet a man who shares her Christian values and would enjoy going to church with her.
She is tall, thin, pretty, a classy dresser, and she has the most beautiful skin. She prefers to meet a man who is also slender and takes care of himself.
She is not sure the timing is right for her to join my service and she may wait until after the holidays. Although she has been separated for a couple of years, this will be her first holiday season after being officially divorced.
She is going to think about it and call me in a couple of days.
My second appointment is a man, mid 50’s, divorced, educated, and his long term goal is to be intimate with someone by the third date.
He said “I want to know that part of the relationship is going to work before I waste anymore time getting to know someone.”
I said “I think that is an unrealistic expectation. How has that worked out for you so far?”
He said “It is usually not a problem and, if it is, I am out of there.”
After gathering all of his information, I realized that was not his only unrealistic expectation.
I told him I did not have compatible matches because I honestly could not think of one female client that I would feel comfortable matching with him.
He said “Well, keep me in mind and call me when you have someone.”
To be continued………