April 23, 2013

My first appointment today is a man, late 40’s, divorced, highly educated, and his long term goal is marriage.
He said “Does anyone want to get married anymore? I keep meeting ladies who are so ambivalent about what they want in a relationship.”
I said “Marriage is not the preferred option anymore, especially for people who have been divorced once or twice already.”
He has been divorced one time and just started dating a few months ago.

He said “Being single today is so different than it was 25 years ago. I did the online dating and it was like having a part time job. I spent hours on the computer, and eventually met a few ladies but it was a total waste of time. One lady I was interested in said she wanted to get together again but she never returned my calls. Another lady I was interested in told me on our second date that she met someone else she was more interested in. It’s like everyone thinks the grass is always greener on the other side, and it made me feel very disposable.”
I said “There is a lot of game playing on the internet, that doesn’t happen here because I am involved as a third party. You also meet more serious minded ladies at Perfectly Matched and I do all the work.”

He said “I want to meet a lady who knows she wants to be married. I loved being married.”
I said “Why did your marriage end?”
He said “She met someone on the internet.”

He is an old fashion guy, traditional, conservative, religious, and a lady who is compatible with him would probably also want to be married.
He was surprised when I pulled up files of ladies whose “scores” were the same as his, or very close.
He said “I like your test. I like that you use these scores to make matches. It makes so much more sense that I will meet someone who thinks much the same as me in these important areas of compatibility.”

There are ladies who still see marriage as the ultimate long term goal, and those are the ladies I will be introducing to him.

Feedback today from a lady who has decided that she is very interested in a man I introduced to her a few weeks ago. Initially she was not sure he was someone she thought had long term potential. After several more dates, she has decided she is so comfortable with him, enjoys the time she spends with him, looks forward to seeing him, and misses him when she is away from him, she wants me to put her “on hold”. “ On hold” means she does not want to meet anyone else right now. I saw this one coming from a mile away. He is a perfect match for her and I am very happy to put her “on hold”. I am also very happy for him because he is a great guy, and has hung in there for the last year that we have worked together. It only takes one right one!

To be continued……………………..