April 18, 2013

My first appointment today is a man, late 50’s, self employed, grown children, his long term goal is a serious, monogamous, relationship, with a big question mark as far as marriage is concerned.
He said “I have been married twice and, never say never, but it would take a very special lady for me to consider marriage again.”

He is a little rough around the edges, and just tells it like it is. No pussy footing around with this fellow.
He said “I looked at the dating services on the internet and knew I wasn’t going to go through all that crap to meet someone.”
He saw my ad on the wall in a restroom and he had to tease me about it.
He said “You have to have a lot of balls to put your picture and phone number on a bathroom wall.”
I said “After referral business, that is my next best source on new leads, so I endure the teasing.”

He enjoys movies, dining out, hiking, biking, walking, and occasionally, a concert or going to the theater. He mentioned Miss Saigon and Phantom of the Opera as two productions he especially liked.
He enjoys traveling, and would love to travel more with someone special. He has been to Russia, London, Paris, Rome and China.

When I asked him what was important to him physically as far as a lady is concerned, he said “As long as she has her carcass in good shape, I don’t mind someone who is a little overweight.”

I showed him my fee list and he said “Donna, you’re killing me here. Let me think about it for a couple of days.”
I said “Ok.”
He said “What the hell, let’s do it now.”

He is good looking, has a dry sense of humor, and in spite of his cockiness, he is a little shy.
I have some great matches for him because he is very open on his preferences and I already have his first match arranged.

My second appointment is a lady, mid 30’s, ABS, educated, self employed, her long term goal is marriage and children. In addition to owning her own business, she is a part time musician.
She said “My music and songwriting are very important to me, but it also puts me in an environment where I often date other musicians. I also often end up supporting them financially and dating men much younger than myself. They are not ready to settle down and have kids, and that’s why I am sitting here talking to you.”

She is a “5” in temperament, direct and straight forward. When I read her the “Ideal Relationships” of men I thought were good matches for her, she definitely has opinions about what does, or does not, work for her.
The “Ideal Relationship” is a paragraph or two that I ask each client to put into their own words what an ideal relationship would be for them.
I read her one man’s ideal relationship and she responded very positively.
She said “I love that his degree is in social work and he wants to work with kids. I can also see myself going to China to teach young kids.”
As I was reading another man’s ideal relationship she said “I can tell you for sure he would not be someone I would want to meet. He sounds too serious and boring.”

One of the reasons she moved to Colorado was to enjoy the outdoors. She loves mountain climbing, hiking, camping and backpacking. She also has an interest to continue to travel. She has been to Central America, Bezel, Honduras, and likes the third world countries. She backpacked through Central America by herself.

She said “I am probably not going to be compatible with someone who is into math or science or sports. I plan to be a humanitarian when I retire.”

With her five inch platform shoes on today she is 6’1 but she said the best relationship she ever had was with a man who was 5”8.
Obviously, not everyone who comes to see me is beautiful. I had a client comment that it seems like every time I write about a new client they are good looking, beautiful, or very attractive. I work with all kinds of people with many different levels of attraction and I try to be accurate in how I describe them. This young lady is very possibly one of the most beautiful ladies I have ever met. She looks like a Victoria Secret model, and I don’t feel I am exaggerating one bit. She, however, does not feel she needs to be matched with a gorgeous man.
She said “You would be surprised the type of men I have been attracted to. I like the scruffy, Lyle Lovett look.”

She did not make the commit to join today because she always takes some time when considering a major purchase.
She said “I will call you next week and I feel very confident that we will be working together.”

So do I.

To be continued…………………………………..