August 26, 2010

My first appointment today is a man, late 50’s, divorced, educated, grown kids and grandkids, semi retired, and his long term goal is a serious relationship, possibly marriage. His last relationship ended when he realized she was mostly interested in his money. I said “How did you realize she was mostly interested in your money?” He said “Because she kept wanting more, no matter how generous I was, it was never enough.” The straw that broke the camel’s back was she walked into their home talking on her cell phone to a friend, not realizing he was home, and she chatted on and on while he sat in the living room just listening. She said “I may not get him to marry me but at least I have this big rock on my finger and it goes with me, whatever happens.” She also proceeded to make disparaging remarks about him and their relationship which made him feel like a fool. He said it was like listening to a person he did not know and they had been together almost three years. What worried him the most was he was about to ask her to marry him. Instead, when she walked into the living room, still chatting with her friend, and realized what he had overheard, she was furious with him and accused him of invading her privacy. He told her “You and your rock can leave as soon as humanly possible.” It was not a happy ending. Flash forward one year and he is ready to date again but decided to try a new approach and called me. He said “I like that you know these ladies and I am interested in your matching process, but more than anything it will nice to have someone to bounce things off and have a second opinion.” He said “My daughter is going to be so happy when I tell her I am working with a professional matchmaker. She says my “picker” is broken and I am a sucker for a pretty lady.” I said “Tell your daughter my “picker” has 23 years of experience and many men are a sucker for a pretty lady. I will do my best to make sure she is compatible AND pretty.”

My second appointment is a lady, late 30’s, ABS, educated, a teacher, and her long term goal is marriage. She can go either way as far as having children. I interviewed her six years ago and at that time her long term goal was marriage and children. She said “I always thought I would have children but I feel like I am too old and set in my ways to adjust to raising a child.” She feels she could be content with the right man and a couple of dogs. I immediately thought of my client who has three dogs and got dumped when the last lady he was dating objected to him sleeping with his dogs. I said “How would you feel about a man who has three dogs and he lets them sleep in his bed?” She said “I don’t have a problem with that.” I will let him tell her one of the dogs weighs 100 pounds, one of them passes gas often, and the other one takes a shower with him. She is an “8” in temperament, very easy going, it could work!

To be continued tomorrow