Dear Donna: December 08, 2020

Dear Donna,

After a two year break I decided I was ready to date again in February and then COVID hit so I thought I would wait and see what would happen.
Now I am tired of waiting and I am not sure what I am waiting for.
I am ready to share my time, maybe my life, with the right man.

I live in the Springs and I have seen your commercials on tv so I assume you are still in business.

With all the COVID restrictions where do people go to meet and where do they go on a date after they have met? Sandy

Dear Sandy,

Now that we are limited to patio or outdoor dining that’s where most of my clients are meeting. There are plenty of places outdoors that are heated. You can go to COS Local Restaurant Delivery and Curbside Services for a list of those restaurants.
Parks are also a favorite place to meet and have been especially so since COVID started.

Of course it’s different if you are not planning on meeting someone like my clients are through Perfectly Matched. Although it will be a first meeting, they have talked briefly on the phone and agreed where to meet.

I am not sure where you can go today to just hang out with the expectation you might meet someone but going to a local outdoor patio/restaurant with a friend might be a consideration. At least you can get out with a friend and have some fun.

As far as where they are going on dates, patios and parks are pretty much it until the restrictions change.

Hopefully this will not last much longer and if you are tired of waiting you might want to consider my service.
I can take care of who you meet and the two of you can decide where to meet.

Dear Donna,

I have been seeing a lady for about three months and I thought everything was going great. We were having fun, I really like her and we had a great physical relationship.

She told me things are going too fast and she wants to slow down and just be friends. She doesn’t want to have a intimate relationship until we are better “friends.”

I told her I didn’t want to just be her friend and not be intimate.
She doesn’t understand and is upset that I don’t want to see her as just a friend.
She has called me a couple of times to see if I might change my mind but why should I spend my time with someone who just wants to be “friends” when we have already been more than “friends”. Keith

Dear Keith,

Maybe because you really like her and were having fun.
Three months is almost always the time in a new relationship where people get relaxed enough to be themselves and start to identify the things that do or don’t work. Initially, we are all on our best behavior.

Once you are physically involved, you are emotionally involved and it takes the focus off the friendship and puts it on the intimacy with someone you barely know.

If you really like her and were having fun why not try it her way and focus on the friendship for awhile, which is really where it should be in the beginning.

I think her request to slow things down and focus on the friendship is reasonable and if you don’t try it you will never know.

Also please consider that you might be unhappy about no intimacy for a short time and enjoy it more if you can work this out.