Dear Donna: March 05, 2021

Dear Donna,

I hate dating because I can’t stand rejection. When I meet someone for the first time I find myself hoping I am not going to be interested in her so I won’t care if she is not interested in me. When I am interested in them it seems they are not interested in me. Does this happen to everyone or is it just me? Nathan

Dear Nathan,

It happens to almost everyone. Don’t look at it as rejection. It is just a part of the process. Anyone who dates has most likely been on both sides where they are not interested and the other person is, or vice versa.

Make it easier on yourself and stop saying you hate dating and hoping you won’t be interested when you meet someone new. You are setting yourself up for disappointment.

Put a smile on your face and go into these first meetings with no expectation other than this is a nice person who might end up as a friend. If they aren’t interested, no big deal, someone else will be.

It only takes one right one. Keep trying or call me.
You can start by taking my free profile test at and let me do all the work.

Dear Donna,

I have been dating a lady for several months and although we are intimate, she does not want to make a commitment.

She wants to just go with the flow and and assures me it is alright with her if I want to keep my options open to date other women.

I am not sure how much more time I should commit to this relationship if she cannot make a commitment. Dan

Dear Dan,

If someone you are dating is telling you to date other women, you should probably date other women.
Or, you might go with the flow and see what happens.

Are you having fun with her? Do you get along? Do you look forward to seeing her? Do you enjoy her company? Do you think she might have long term potential?
I would encourage you to focus on those aspects of the relationship as opposed to her not being ready to make a commitment right now.

I am not sure what kind of commitment you are looking for but this might just be a matter of timing. If everything else seems to be working, go with the flow and give her more time, at least a year.