January 12, 2013

My first appointment today is a “be back”, a lady I interviewed three months ago. She is mid 30’s, ABS (always been single), educated, her long term goal is marriage and children. She was engaged, and in a three year relationship that ended a year ago.

She said “We were planning to get married last summer and a month before the wedding he told me he just wasn’t ready to be married. I thought he just had cold feet and we could talk it out but he insisted on calling off the wedding. We went to counseling and I ultimately decided I did not want to marry him.”
During the holidays they reconnected, but after two weeks she knew it was over for her.
She said “I am really glad that happened because now I have no doubts that I am ready to move on.”

She enjoys tennis, hiking, biking, cross country skiing, dancing, concerts, gardening, and cooking. She would like to meet a man who will be supportive of her being a stay at home mom. Her home is paid for, she is financially stable, and with an equally stable partner, she feels she can comfortably afford to be a stay at home mom.
She said “I want a man who will be a good father, and wants a family as much as I do.”

It is really refreshing to me that I hear more and more women and men saying they want to have one of the parents be a stay at home mom or dad. Perhaps the pendulum is starting to swing the other way.

My second appointment is a lady, mid 50’s, widowed, no children, and her long term goal is a committed long term relationship. She told me she called me three years ago and I told her she did not sound like she was emotionally ready to date.
She said “You were right. It is only in the last few months that the ideal of dating doesn’t scare me to death. I am lonely and I miss male companionship. I loved being married and I want to be married again.”

She is a movie fanatic, and enjoys camping, hiking, fishing, dining out, country and western music, and cooking. Eleven Mile Reservoir and the Great Sand Dunes are two of her favorite places. She is a Bronco and Rockies fan and goes to a few games a year.

She said “I don’t necessarily have to be married, and I would live with someone without being married. I would also like to travel with someone and go some place where my family doesn’t show up. I have a big family, and I love them, but they would hear we were going somewhere and next thing you know, there they are, even when we went to Hawaii.

At the end of the interview she said “I have come this far, let’s go, I am ready to start dating!” She is a very sweet lady and I look forward moving on with this important part of her life.

My third interview is also a lady, this was ladies day at Perfectly Matched. She is early 50’s, ABS, educated, a nurse, and her long term goal is marriage.

She said “How do you think men will respond when you tell them I have always been single?”
I said “In the interview I ask men and the women if they will meet someone who is divorced, widowed, or always been single. In this age range it is not all that common for someone to never have been married, but it almost never keeps someone from meeting you. What matters more is your relationship history. And the fact that you are tall, thin and pretty won’t hurt.

She stays fit by exercising and doing Pilates. She loves good wine, golf, music, and traveling. She has been to London, Mexico, Hawaii, and the Caribbean on numerous cruises.

Her scores reflect that she is easy going, outgoing, nonconforming, very affectionate, and budget minded.
I said “Your affection score is your most motivating score, on a scale of “0” to “10”, you are an “8.5”. It is going to be very important that a man be very affectionate to be compatible with you.”
She said “Absolutely, and you can tell them I am one hundred percent loyal and true. I am a one man woman.”

She was very impressed with the profile test and what I know about her from just those six scores.
She said “Even friends who know me well don’t know as me as well as you do from just 46 questions.”
I said “I hear that all the time.”

I am going to find her first and, hopefully last, husband.

To be continued……………………….