My first appointment today is a lady, mid 20’s, ABS, educated, her long term goal is marriage and children. She said “I have sisters who are married and they both have kids. I feel like life is speeding by and I don’t want to miss my opportunity to have kids.” She had two long term relationships and they both began with her feeling they could be the father of her children. They both ended with her being sure they would not be the father of her children. After three years in her last relationship he confessed that he did not want to be a father.
She said “How do you know men are telling you the truth when they say they want to have children?”
I said “People tell me the truth about what they want because they are paying me money to help them find what they want. A man would not tell me to find him a woman who wants to have children if he did not want to have children.” I encouraged her to be just as focused on finding a man who would also be the right husband for her. She agreed.
She enjoys a sport that has only been mentioned to me a couple of times, rowing. You should see her arms! According to her, rowing is an early morning sport where you get on the water at about 4am before other boats are out on the water to make waves. She also enjoys snowboarding, repelling, kayaking, and mountain climbing. No one who is faint of heart would be a good match for her. She is an admitted adrenaline junkie and next on her list is sky diving. She wants to explore more of the world and a trip to China is on her “to do” list.
She said “I feel I still have time to be married for a few years before I have kids and there is so much I want to do before I become a mother. I can’t see myself taking some of these risks when I have a child.”
Her sister said “Quit wasting your time and call that lady who is on the bathroom wall everywhere .” I would prefer to be called a Matchmaker but whatever makes them pick up the phone and call works for me.
I have some great matches for her and they are just as interested in being a father as she is in being a mother.
My second appointment is a man, late 40’s, divorced, highly educated, grown children, self employed, his long term goal is a serious relationship and he would consider marriage, with a prenuptial. He said “I would offer prenuptial that any lady should be comfortable with, but I am not going to jeopardize all that I have accumulated to this point and what I can leave to my children.” He feels that it is fair to separate what they each bring into the relationship and agree to share whatever assets they accumulate together should the marriage end. I told him there are just as many ladies looking to have to same protection. His last relationship ended because she would not agree to a prenuptial and four months later she married someone else.
He has a great sense of humor and I cannot remember the last time I laughed so much in an interview. He said “My mother told me I should listen to that song that says “Make an ugly woman your wife, she will love you for the rest of your life”. He loves his mom, she is Italian, and gives him a hard time about the women he dates. He said “She says you keep dating the Barbie dolls who just want to have fun and spend your money. Find a real woman who grows her own vegetables and has dinner on the table every night.” His daughter also gives him a hard time about his choices for women and has informed him he CANNOT date a woman who is the same age as her.
He said “The two most important women in my life think I need some help and I am beginning to think they are right.” He has been divorced for almost five years and has had a lot of fun dating and exploring his options but he is really ready to find the right lady and be in a committed relationship. He said “I love being with one special person and I love being in love. I miss that and I want to find it again with the right lady.”
He loves to travel, especially in the US of A. He said “International travel has become complicated and there are so many places I want to explore here.” He is also a veracious reader, enjoys concerts, theater, good wine, good food, loves to cook and loves to work. He said “My work is my passion and, hopefully, I can find someone who understands that I can have weeks where I work 60 hours and I can have weeks where we can take off for two or three weeks and do something fun.”
I am going to try to find him a woman who grows her own vegetables, has dinner on the table, is beautiful, older than his daughter, and make them all happy.
I am doing a sponsorship on KRDO for Valentine’s day and would like to suggest you take time to go to KRDO.com to register for the Valentine package they are giving away. It is free and it would only take you a minute to register. When you click on the webpage look on the right hand side and click on the Valentine special to register. Someone is going to win it, it might as well be YOU!
To be continued…..