My first appointment today is a man, late 30’s, ABS, self employed with a very successful business, his long term goal is marriage and he can go either way as far as having children. He said “It is not that I am indifferent about having children. I believe I could meet a lady where having children would be great, and I believe I could meet a lady where not having children would be great. What matters most is meeting the right lady.” Although he does not have children, he is open to meeting ladies who do have children.
He said “I have no trouble meeting ladies but, obviously I have not met the right lady, and I have been curious about how your business works and what you might be able to do for me that I have not been able to do for myself.”
I said “I can introduce you to serious minded ladies who have invested in my service because they also want to meet the right partner, and I do all the work.” Then I talked to him about ladies I think are good matches for him based on his scores from the profile test, ladies who also want to be married, ladies who share many of his interests and activities, and ladies I think he will find attractive who are also good intellectual matches on a compatible income level.
He said “How can you know the type of lady I will find attractive?”
I said “Your height preference is 5’3 to 5’11, your age preference is 30 to 42, you prefer ladies who are slim and fit, and that applies to each of these ladies.”
He said “But someone could meet all those preferences and I still might not find her attractive.”
I said “After 25 years of matchmaking, I have developed a good eye for choosing levels of attraction and once I match you once or twice I will be much more in tune with you and the type of woman you find attractive.”
He said “Why not just show a picture and take all the guess work out of it?”
I said “Because most people do not take a good picture and you will see something in person that you cannot see in a picture.”
After a little more discussion, he agreed to trust my judgment on the first two matches and I agreed to show him a picture on the third match if he does not find either of the first two ladies attractive. I am so accustom to having this conversation. No one knows better than I do how important physical attraction is, and no one knows better than I do that is has to be there AND is has to be mutual. Everyone knows they have to be attracted to someone but not everyone understands the attraction has to be mutual. People with unrealistic expectations have less options, it’s that simple. I am not implying this man has unrealistic expectations, he is quite handsome.
He enjoys spectator sports, concerts, travel, hiking, cross country skiing, photography, scuba diving, great food and great wine. He especially enjoys cooking and appreciates a lady who enjoys cooking.
At the end of the interview he said he wanted to “think about it” and give me a call in a couple of days.
I said “That’s fine, I never hard sell. Call me if you have any questions while you are thinking about it.”
Then he said “What the hell, let’s do it now.”
I said “What the hell, let’s do.”
My second appointment might be a good match for the man I just interviewed. She is early 40’s, divorced, highly educated, successful in a career that she loves, and her long term goal is marriage. Her story is one that I have heard many times. Right after her first marriage ended, she met a man who swept her off her feet. She did not feel she was even ready to date but everything seemed so perfect she found herself in love, and was sure she had met the perfect man. Now she is ready to do what she should have done when her first marriage ended, date, have fun, make friends and explore her options.
She is very fit, beautiful, and very sweet. On a scale of “0” to “10” in temperament, she is an “8”, very compassionate and kind hearted. She works out several times a week, loves to cook, sking, enjoys hiking, travel, and taking her kids to participate in their sports activities.
I am excited to have her as a new client and excited to introduce her to men who have as much to offer her as she has to offer them.
FYI, if you find yourself being swept off your feet by someone remember two things; the ones that start fast, end fast, and if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
To be continued……….