July 11, 2013

This is a portion of an email I received from the young lady who was my first appointment today.

“I own my own home, have saved a lot of money for someone my age, and have a good credit score. I would like the guy I am with to be financially sound as well. By that I mean that he makes smart financial decisions… He doesn’t have to be rich..but he should live within his means. I may be jumping the gun here but I wanted you to have my information on file. I am a 28 year old female. I don’t know if you can do anything as of right now but I wouldn’t mind talking to you. I am tired of dating guys for 2-3 years and then it ending because I made the wrong choice and forgot some of my values. Thanks and I hope I’m not wasting your time.”

I don’t usually invite someone in for an interview when they are still in a relationship but I had a good conversation with her on the phone and I liked her honesty.

She is extremely budget minded, a “3” on a scale of “0” to “10” and the man she is in a relationship is not financially responsible.
She said “It drives me crazy when someone does not have their finances under control. I got it from my dad, and I have been saving money since I was 13.”

There are a number of other reasons why this relationship does not work for her, and although she clearly knows what the incompatibilities are between the two of them, she is having a hard time telling him she wants to end the relationship.

We talked for an hour and a half and agreed she will get back to me when she has ended the relationship and is emotionally ready to start dating.
She now has a game plan for how to proceed.
I said “The person you choose to marry and possibly be the father of your children will probably be the most important decision you will make in your lifetime. Put yourself first.”

Love can be so complicated, especially when you are young.

My second appointment is a “be back”, a lady I interviewed in April.
When I wrote about her in my daily diary I said “She said when she was driving to see me she was thinking “I can’t believe I am doing this, it’s all too much trouble.”
Three months later she has decided maybe it’s worth the trouble.

She is 50, divorced, educated, and her long term goal is a serious long term relationship, possibly marriage. She has two children and she has been a stay at home mom since they were born.
She is very athletic, participates in many sports, and volunteers for several organizations.
She said “My children are my first priority and any man in my life is going to have to respect that they come first, and always will. I have great kids and I am always mindful of setting a good example for them.”
She goes skiing, hiking, biking, rollerblading, camping and takes road trips with the kids. They have traveled all over the US and Europe. She also plays golf, tennis, and considers herself a very competitive person.

She said “I have been thinking about this since I met with you, and will never know if it works if I don’t try it. I am ready to meet the right man.”
And I am ready to help her find him.

Tonight was such a beautiful summer night I took a ride through Garden of the Gods. Any time is a good time to fall in love but falling in love in the summer in Colorado is so romantic. The hot days, the cool nights, the beautiful sunsets….your summer love could be waiting for you to walk through my door.
Call 260-1000 for your no obligation interview and let’s see how many matches I have for you!!!

To be continued……….