My first appointment today is a lady, early 50’s, divorced, retired and her long term goal is possibly marriage.
I said “You are very young to be retired.”
She said “I know but I worked very hard for over 25 years with the plan to retire early and I am very thankful to be in this position.”
Although she is retired, she works part time at a couple of different businesses and also does volunteer work.
She said “I love that I have the time to do things to help others.”
She is extremely easy going, a “9” in temperament on a scale of “0” to “10”.
I said “The good thing about your temperament score is you are very compassionate and kind hearted. You really do care about others but sometimes to the point where you put their feelings before yours, even people who don’t deserve it, and I would bet a year’s salary you have a tendency to stay in relationships twice as long as you should because you will give someone the benefit of the doubt until there is no more doubt.”
She said “I do! How do you know that about me from just 46 questions on a test?”
I said “I have worked with this test for almost 30 years. I know what these scores mean and I believe in them. It cannot be a coincidence that the couples who continue to have success in a relationship are the ones who have the most compatible scores.”
She enjoys road trips, tent camping, hiking, yoga, live music, concerts, spending time with her family, traveling and she would like to climb a 14er.
She said “There are five things I look for in a man; kind eyes, a nice smile, strong hands, a natural scent that is appealing to me and a good sense of humor.”
I said “And you have the one quality that men often tell me they would like to find in a woman, someone who is sweet.”
My second appointment is a man, late 30’s, educated and his long term goal is marriage and maybe kids.
He said “I never thought I would still be single at this age and I can’t believe I am so desperate that I have come to you to buy a wife.”
I said “I don’t have wives for sale. I have serious minded ladies who understand they are investing in a process that greatly increases their odds of finding the right man.”
He said “Do the girls pay you the same thing the men pay?”
I said “Yes they do, that is my way of knowing everyone is equally committed and that makes a difference.”
He said “I want to meet a good looking girl and I have a hard time understanding why a good looking girl would have to pay to find a man?’
I said “You are a good looking guy and you’re here.”
He said “Touché.”
Once we got all that out of the way, he started telling me about the kind of girl he wants to meet. He can go either way as far as having kids. His age preference is 28 to 42. His height preference is 5’1 to 5’9. He prefers Caucasian or Hispanic, a nonsmoker and a light social drinker.
He enjoys mountain biking, skiing, boating, racquetball, concerts, tropical vacations and sporting events.
After I talked to him about three ladies I thought were good matches for him he said “How do you pull those files and match everything up so closely without a computer?”
I said “It’s magic! Actually, it is because I know my clients and their scores are like their names to me. I am a Matchmaker.”
He said “Well, I guess I came to the right place to buy a wife.”
He was kidding…..I think.
Feedback today from a client who had a three year relationship with a lady I matched him with and it ended about two years ago. I started working with him again a year ago and my heart really went out to him because he was very hurt when she ended their relationship. He has been dating another lady I matched him with for four months now and they both seem very happy.
He said “I struggled so much to make that last relationship work, even from the very beginning. This relationship is easy and comfortable and I have every confidence that she cares for me as much as I care for her. It feels so natural and right. It makes me glad I didn’t keep trying to make the other relationship work.”
I am very happy for him and her and I personally think this is a much better match for him. If you have to work too hard, it is not a good sign. “Comfortable, confident, natural, right” those are the words I hear when it’s working for both people.
Call 260-1000 for your no obligation interview or start by taking the Profile test on my website at www.perfectlymatcheddating.com and let’s see how many matches I have for YOU.
It only takes one right one!
To be continued………………