July 6, 2011

My first appointment today is a lady, early 30’s, ABS, her long term goal is marriage and at least one child. She said “How many kids I would have depends on how soon I meet someone and get married.” She wants to spend a couple of years married before she has a child. She does not see herself having any children after the age of 38. She has learned from her relationship experiences that she would want to live with someone for a year before getting married. She asked me if I thought that could be a problem. I said “No, your scores are nonconforming and I would not be matching you with traditional men. A man most compatible with you would very likely feel the same way you do about that.” She is extremely physically active and would like to share her love of the outdoors, hiking, camping, fishing and hunting. She is a Colorado native and grew up hunting with her father and brothers. She said “I was the youngest and they used to take me along mostly to help them until I got to the point where I can shoot better than all of them.” She can shoot it, clean it, cook it, and eat it. She also skis, kayaks, ice climbs and mountain bikes. She has done the Ride the Rockies a couple of times. She enjoys going to Red Rocks for concerts a few times a year. She likes to travel but does not have an interest to travel outside the country. She would love to bike the California coast with someone special. Her friend who referred her to me has been trying to get her to call me for years. She said “I thought I would find someone on my own but I think my picker is broken.” I told her I specialize in helping people with broken pickers.

My second appointment is a referral from a client who married the first lady I matched him with and he asked me if I could do that for him. I said “It happens, but it is not the norm.” He asked me what his expectation should be as to how long it would take for me to find the right match for him. I said “A realistic expectation is a year, but I don’t have a time frame on my service so if we go through all the matches I have for you and you are still available we would be waiting for the right person to walk through my door.” He said “That could take forever.” I said “Let me finish the interview and know how many matches I have for you because the more matches I have for someone the more likely they will meet the right person.” He is early 40’s, ABS, educated and has no relationship experience. I said “How do you get to this age and have no relationship experience?” He said “That’s none of your business.” Then he wanted me to guarantee him he would meet someone he marries or give him a refund.” I said “If I could guarantee that I would charge a lot more money and have a line of people waiting outside my door.” He said “Tell me what this cost before we go any further.” I normally finish the interview sharing the prices but he inspired me to pull out the price list ten minutes into the interview. He looked at it and said “You’ve got to be kidding me, I’m out of here.” I said “You know, this is not for everyone.” I stood up and told him to have a good day and he left. Suddenly I understood how he got to be 42 with no relationship experience. The interview was over for me when he told me his nonexistent relationship history was none of my business. Every once in a while someone comes along that makes me question that there IS someone for everyone.

My third appointment rescheduled because she was caught in the pouring rain and was already running a half hour late. She said “It’s a monsoon out here, I’m going home.”

My last appointment is a man, early 30’s, ABS, educated, his long term goal his marriage and children. He has been a client for three years and he was back to purchase more matches. I sold him half the program three years ago because I did not have enough matches to feel comfortable asking him to invest in ten matches, mostly because of his young age. I sold him five and matched him twelve times. He said “You know me so well and you have been so fair with me I am not about to give up now.” He is simply one of the nicest young men I have ever worked with and he is very open on his preferences. He does not mind if a lady is overweight even though he is fit. He said “You have told me several times that I am unique in that way and it still amazes me that men would not be interested in some of the ladies you have matched me with because they are a few pounds overweight.” A couple of the ladies were 25 to 30 pounds overweight and he thought they were beautiful, and they are. He has a great job that he loves, owns his home, and is so ready to find the right lady, marry and have a family. The only thing wrong with him is that the right lady has not walked through my door and it will be one of my happiest days as a matchmaker when I find the right lady for him. He is from the Midwest and very close to his parents and sister. He enjoys skiing, golf, sporting events, running and spending time with his friends. He is the kind of guy you would love to have for a son-in-law and someday I hope to be dancing at his wedding!

To be continued…………………………………