March 11, 2013

My first appointment today is a lady, early 40’s, divorced, educated, and her long term goal is marriage.

She said “My only child is in college and I am ready to start dating, but I don’t know where to start. I found your website online and felt much more comfortable calling you than any of the other options.”

She said “My ex-husband and I met when I was 15. We were married as soon as I graduated from high school. I have been divorced for two years and, although men have asked me out, I knew I wasn’t ready. The thought of dating excites me and scares me at the same time.”

I said “Meeting someone through my service is much safer than the online services. I personally meet with all my clients and I verify a valid driver’s license. I am involved before and after each match, and I stay involved until you meet the right person. I don’t have anyone who works for me, or with me, and none of your information goes on a computer. It is all very confidential.”

I could see her walls start to come down, and she was able to relax and share with me more about herself and the type of man she would like to meet. She enjoys hiking, snowshoeing, tennis, cooking, gardening, the arts, movies, and she would love to travel.
She said “I have never been outside the country and I would love to go to Europe, New Zealand, Australia, and Hawaii for starters.”

When we talked about the type of man she would like to meet she said “I want to meet someone who treats me with respect and loves me unconditionally. I want someone who genuinely likes me for the person I am, and doesn’t want to change me. I want someone who treats me as an equal, and doesn’t talk down to me. I want someone who is kind, gentle and loving. I want someone who treats others with respect and kindness. I want a positive person who looks for the best in other people. I want a happy person who sees the glass as half full.”
I said “Do you know who you just described?”
She said “No, do you?”
I said “You just described yourself. When I ask someone to describe their ideal person, they almost always describe themselves.”
She started to cry, then she laughed, and said “You’re right. I would love to meet someone like me.”

She also just told me volumes about what was missing in her marriage.
It always goes back to someone as much like yourself as possible, and she is only looking for what she has to offer in return.

I look forward to helping her start dating.

I received feedback from a couple who met for the first time today and their calls to me came within a few minutes of each other. Any time I receive back to back calls from a couple who has just met, I know it is good news. She is a new client and he was her first date. He has been a client for a couple of years.

He said “She is beautiful, smart, classy, a fabulous dresser, has a great sense of humor, and I am very excited to see her again. I asked her for a date but she said she had to call you first.”
I said “She is just following my rules about getting back to me with feedback before it is decided if there will be a second meeting.”
He said “I forgot about that, but she said she was going to call you right away, so let me know.”
As soon as I hung up with him she called and was so excited.
She said “Oh my gosh, my gosh, oh my gosh, he is wonderful! My teeth hurt from smiling so much! Oh my gosh, my gosh!”
I said “You sound like the lady on the Bachelor last night.”
She said “I saw him when he walked in and thought what a handsome man, but he walked past me, then he turned around and said my name and I was like OH YES!”
Needless to say, it was a good first match, but I was very quick to caution both of them to not get too excited until they get to know each other better.
I have to admit though, it was really fun to share in their excitement….it’s time to say it again…I LOVE MY JOB!!!!!!!

To be continued……..