May 5, 2012

My first appointment is a lady, late 40’s, divorced, educated, grown children, and she is open to marriage, but it is not a requirement.

She said “I can be just as committed in a relationship without being married, and it could be very complicated and risky to marry at this stage of life.”
I told her I hear that often from people in her age range and with her “scores”.
She said “What do the scores have to do with it?”
I pointed out that her “Conformity” score and her “Religion” score are both a “3” on a scale of “0” to “10”. She is a nonconformist and spiritual, as opposed to religious. A man who is compatible with her would also lean towards being nonconforming and not too religious, and more likely to be open to, and perhaps even prefer, a relationship that does not include marriage.

After that comment, she was more interested in the scores and wanted to go through the six areas of compatibility and guess her ex-husband’s scores. She guessed him to be NOT easy going, very shy, traditional, not affectionate, religious, and very, very frugal. If she guessed his scores correctly, they would be incompatible in all six areas.

She said “I know I am just guessing, but after 20 years of marriage, I am probably not too far off on any of those guesses. Where were you and your test 20 years ago?’
I said “On Northpark Drive, on the corner of Garden of the Gods and Northpark.”
She was surprised that this sort of testing has been used for so long and she was really surprised when I told her the test I use has been around for over 80 years.

She is interested in my service but wants to wait until she returns from a trip at the end of this month to join.
She said “While I am gone, start looking for my first match and when I get back, you will be my first call!”

My second appointment today is a lady, late 30’s, ABS (always been single), her long term goal is marriage and children.

She said “I read on your daily diaries that you used to say people are waiting so long to get married and have children that they will be going to their children’s college graduations and getting their AARP card at the same time. But, today you say they are waiting so long to get married and have children that they will be going to their children’s high school graduations and getting their AARP card at the same time.”

She started adding it up, if she gets married and has a child in the next two or three years, she will be about 50 when that child graduates from high school.
That thought was enough to inspire her to pick up the phone and call me.

She said “I have had two serious relationships that each lasted a couple of years, and I don’t date men unless they have the same long term goal to be married and have a family. I initially thought that potential was there with both of those men, but the relationships ended for other reasons. I realize I don’t have the luxury of spending any more time in a relationship that does not work out. I want to find the right person this time, and I think a man who is serious enough to go to a matchmaker would also be serious about finding the right person.”

She has worked for the same company since she graduated from high school, and she has worked her way up to management. She is very financially responsible. She owns her home and has a nice little nest egg put aside with the idea of being a stay-at-home mom when she does have children. She is seriously considering adoption if she does not find the right man in the next few years.

She enjoys lots of hiking, cooking, gardening, scrapbooking ,reading, concerts, and traveling. She grew up taking road trips with her parents and siblings and hopes to have that experience with her own family.
She said “Every summer we would take two weeks and go someplace new. We would spend months planning where we would go on our next trip, and everyone’s input was considered. It was so fun and exciting and we really bonded on those trips.”

She is very open on her preferences, including height, race and age.
She said “And I don’t care if he DOES get his AARP card at the same time our kid graduates from high school.

I got a call from a man today who was sitting in a café and a lady walked up to him and said “Are you David?”
He said “No, but I wish I was.” She laughed and explained that she was meeting someone new and he looked like the description that Donna had given her.
Having seen my ads before, he put two and two together and called me. He is coming in for an interview this week.
After 21 years business, I have to say this is one of the most unique ways I have ever received a new lead call.
This will be a great story if they end up being a good match for each other.

To be continued………………….