November 12, 2011

My first appointment today is a man, early 60’s, divorced, self employed, and his long term goal is marriage. He first became a client back in 1995 when he was going through a divorce. He said “You told me back then that you were not sure I was really ready to start dating and you were right.” He only met one lady, that he could remember, and then he faded away and I never heard from him again until a week ago. It took several more years before his divorce was final and he feels he is just now ready to start dating. I asked him what made him think about calling me again and he said “You were very kind, considerate, patient and you were concerned as to whether I was ready to get involved again…I enjoyed working with you. So far I have used the Senior People Meet, Christian Dating For Free, and currently websites and it has been a complete waste of time. I am a very loving, kind, considerate and patient person and would just like to find a loving lady to share life with. There surely has to be someone out there.” Surely there is, and now I have a second chance to help him find her.

My second appointment is a lady, early 50’s, divorced, educated, her long term goal is a serious, committed relationship and possibly marriage. I interviewed her over three years ago when she thought she was ending a relationship that had lasted almost ten years. I told her I did not think she was emotionally available to start dating and evidentially, I was right. That relationship ended a few months ago, but it was off and on for the last two years. She said “I knew you were going to ask me if I was emotionally available and I wanted to be sure I am this time.” This lady is accomplished, very beautiful, successful, a wonderful mother, with grown children, and so much to offer to a relationship. She has only been with one man since her marriage ended and she agrees that dating, having fun, and exploring her options sounds like a good idea. She enjoys dancing, dining out, spending time with family and friends, hanging out at the lake, road trips, and music. She prefers men who are tall, dark, and handsome but she is going to be totally open to my suggestions. When she was leaving she said “I am so excited but I am so nervous.” I said “Of course you are, you haven’t dated since you were in your early twenties.” She said “Oh my God” and walked out the door. I have some great matches for her and I look forward to helping her move on from a relationship she knows did not work for her.

To be continued………………….