My first appointment today is a man, mid 40’s, ABS, smart and successful with unrealistic expectations. He appears to be very financially successful and his long term goal is marriage and children. He prefers to date ladies from 25 to 32. He has been with many beautiful women and she MUST be very, VERY attractive. He does not want to meet anyone who already has children. He is short and he is a smoker. I said “the lady you described would probably not think you would be a good match for her.” He said “Why?” I said “A lady who has all that to offer and is between 25 and 32, has no kids, wants kids and is beautiful is most likely not going to be looking for a man in his mid 40’s and the smoking will be a limiting factor.” I tried to convince him to be more flexible but he believes he can find what he’s looking for even though he has been with many beautiful women and he is in his mid 40’s, still single, wanting children. I told him I would make some phone calls to a couple of ladies who met his preferences and see how they respond to his information before I offered him membership.
My second appointment is a lady, mid 50’s, widowed, retired and her long term goal is a serious, committed relationship. She would consider living with someone but she will probably not be interested in marriage. She would lose too many military benefits if she married. I work with this situation often in Colorado Springs because of our large military community. She has nontraditional scores and a man most compatible with her could be comfortable with the idea of no marriage. She is a smoker and many smokers will say they want to quit but she said “I have no plans to quit smoking. I quit once for ten years and I enjoy my life more when I smoke.” I already matched her with a man who appears to be a very good match. He smokes, he’s widowed for the same length of time, they have very compatible scores, and a number of shared interests. My experience has been that people who are widowed feel a real bond with someone else who has been widowed.
My third appointment is a lady, late 40’s, also widowed, a strong believer, great kids, mostly grown, and her long term goal is possibly marriage. She would lose her husband’s social security if she married and although she is financially very stable and secure, she would have to weigh that factor if she were to marry. She is tall and prefers a man who is larger than her, which is true of most women. She said “After my husband died I kind of let myself go but I am working on my weight and making progress.” Her ideal height would be at least 5’11 and a man who weighs at least 250 pounds.
She plays golf, downhill skis, loves to travel, and enjoys theater and concerts. She said “I am in no hurry and if I need to lose more weight to have more options that is OK.” I have two men who appear to be good matches and we will start with them.
The Gazette has a new feature called “Doing Business Locally” and every Thursday they feature a local business. This Thursday they are going to feature Perfectly Matched! Yea, free advertising! They just came to take my picture and I am guessing there will be no airbrushing so I will have to keep my fingers crossed that I don’t like I was run over by a truck. I guess I can sacrifice vanity for free advertising.
To be continued tomorrow………