October 23, 2012

Matchmaking is a very interesting business. Since 1987 it has been my career, and I began Perfectly Matched in 1991. By the mid 90’s the online dating services became an acceptable thing to do for people who had been reluctant just a year or two before. It has forever changed the way people meet, date, and get to know one another.

People take a nano second today to decide if they are attracted to each other. In the blink of an eye, they are leaning towards feeling, or not feeling, a chemistry…BUT, because I choose for my clients instead of them choosing for themselves, I constantly hear in feedback “Initially, I was not sure there was an attraction, but after a few minutes I felt comfortable and she made me laugh.” I have witnessed “on the fence” after a first meeting, go to “marriage” more times than I can count.

The biggest complaint I hear about online dating is people put on pictures that flatter themselves unrealistically. Men have a tendency to overestimate their height, and women have a tendency to under estimate their weight. There are more and more married people representing themselves to be single. The online dating has “progressed” to the point of those married folks having their own websites where everyone is married and “dating”. Maybe now they will quit deceiving the people who are single and serious about finding the right person.

Online dating is polluted. Anyone can do it, and everyone does. It promotes “exaggerating” to the point of lying. It promotes “emotional vulnerability” to the point that people refer to their relationship of two years and then tell me they have actually never met the other person. The relationship has been totally online. The sad thing is, it really is a relationship to those people. Two years ago, that was unique to hear, today, I hear it often. Perhaps it is a sign of things to come. Eventually maybe all we will need to have a relationship is a computer.

If you are interested in meeting serious minded singles, working with a Matchmaker who has 25 years of experience, allowing me to do all the work, sharing and receiving feedback on the people you meet, and dating coaching, please give me a call.

I have had a lot of “nicknames” from my clients over the years and the one men lean towards is “coach”. Women give me all kind of warm, fuzzy nicknames, but the one I remember most was from a young lady in her mid 30’s who referred to me as her “Pimp-et”. I respectfully requested she reconsider her reference to me and she changed it to “Queen of dating”..she is now married, and still calls me the “Queen of dating”.

I have had “Donna’s Daily Diary” block for the last week. I could not start one more entry with “My first appointment today”.
This was easy to write and, from this point on, I am going to focus more on sharing information on dating and relationships than my appointments.

Online dating sends me more business than it takes away. I do not consider it competition. I consider this an opportunity to remind you to be cautious. READ what the websites themselves warn you about..people conniving for money seems to be the biggest issue. If you are interested in meeting serious minded singles, whose ID has been verified by a valid driver’s license, working one on one with a Matchmaker who has 25 years of experience and has met with everyone personally, who has no employees, allow me to do all the work, sharing and receiving feedback on the people you meet, and dating coaching, please give me a call.

It only takes ONE right one…a client said the other day “the right person at the wrong time is still the wrong person”..Find the right person at the right time!
Call 260-1000. One hour and I will know how many matches I have for you.

To be continued……..