My first appointment today is a man, mid 50’s, divorced, self employed, his long term goal is a serious, committed relationship, living together, or possibly marriage.
He said “Most people would probably think two marriages would be enough but, with the right lady, I could definitely see myself married again.”
His relationship history consists of two marriages and one long term relationship and they all lasted about nine years.
He said “Do you think there is a reason they all lasted the same amount of time?”
I said “It most likely is just a coincidence, but if you continue this trend, you will be in your mid 60’s when the next one ends.”
He said “Oh please, no! That’s why I am here. I want to find the lady I will spend the rest of my life with.
He has a passion for mountain biking and has done some form of racing all his life. He has broken plenty of bones and had his share of injuries but he still loves it and still races.
I said “Is it important that a lady share your passion for mountain biking?”
He said “No, in fact, it is something I enjoy doing alone.” Many of his travel destinations are for the purpose of mountain biking but he is very interested in taking trips with a lady that have nothing to do with biking.
He said “I am really, really into music as well.” He enjoys an occasional concert, although he thinks the venues for concerts in Colorado Springs are not what they used to be. He also enjoys some camping and fishing. He loves animals, and just got a new puppy.
He is very flexible on his preferences and his age preference for a lady is 45 to 65. He does not mind if a lady is 15 to 20 pounds overweight. He is fine with someone who has kids, grown or still at home. He does not care about her height she can be 4’10, or 6’2.
He said “Physical things don’t matter that much to me. A good sense of humor and a good heart is what I look for most of all.” He seems like a great guy and I have plenty of matches for him. One of the matches I spoke to him about is nine years older than him and he is very enthusiastic about meeting her.
He said “Why would I limit myself because of her age if you think she is a good match?”
I said “You took the words right out of my mouth.”
Age is the least important thing if everything else is a match and you find each other attractive.
Give me a dime for every time I have said that!
My second appointment today is a lady, early 40’s, ABS, educated and her long term goal is marriage and children.
She said “I always thought I would be married and have kids at this stage of my life. I am fit and healthy and I think having children is still a very viable option for me.” We agreed I would only match her with men who also want to be married and have children.
She is very easy going, an “8” in temperament on a scale of “0” to “10”, and very sweet. She enjoys hiking, downhill skiing, working out, gardening, cooking, volunteering, reading, the arts, museums, and independent movies like you find at Kimball’s. She has also run a marathon.
She is open to all races, 36 to 48 is the age range she feels will be most compatible, prefers 5’8, or taller, she prefers a degree but agrees that intellectual and financial compatibility matters more than level of education. She appreciates a man who is in relatively good shape, takes care of himself and prefers clean shaven.
I called the man I interview a few days ago that I had no matches for because of his many preferences, including his long term goal to have children in his late 40’s. I thought he might consider her even though she is older than his upper end age preference of 35. He declined.
I said “She is eight years younger than you and appears to be a good match.”
He said “She’s too old to have children.”
Really? I wanted to mention that at his age, his sperm might not be the strong swimmers needed to get the job done, but I was not about to try to talk him into meeting her. She deserves to meet someone who is enthusiastic about meeting her.
I had to give the “teeth talk” today and I realized it has been quite some time since a client has mentioned “teeth” in their feedback. Generally speaking, teeth are the one physical attribute that both men and women notice more than any other. Today it is easy to have white teeth. I have sent so many people to the grocery store for Crest Strips over the years I should get a kickback.
White teeth and a great smile can make a huge difference!
To be continued…….