September 11, 2012

My first appointment is a previous client. I worked with him two years ago and he is back to purchase more matches to continue his search to find the right lady.
He is early 40’s, divorced, educated, and his long term goal is marriage. He has been a busy fellow for the last two years! He went back to school, and has almost finished his Masters degree. He has a new job, and increased his income by 30%. He does not travel as much with this new job, and has more time for his personal life. He is two years further down the road from his divorce, and really ready to make his personal life a priority. He is a wonderful father and his kids are doing great.

He enjoys golf, tennis, hockey, hiking, camping, skiing, scuba diving, traveling, dining out, movies, music, and spending time with his kids.

I had him take the profile test again, and his scores only changed a half a point in a couple of areas. It is very typical that the scores stay consistent when I retest my clients even if many years have passed. I asked him to read his Ideal Relationship he wrote two years ago to see if he wanted to rewrite it.
He read it and said “Nothing has changed, this still reflects what I would like to have in the ideal relationship.” People are usually surprised when they read something they wrote years ago and realize they are still looking for that same person.

This is a portion of his Ideal Relationship:

“I have always believed that dating has the core purpose of finding the right person to spent my life with. I believe in most things being traditional but I am flexible as needs change with the seasons of life. In the perfect world I would meet someone who can stand on their feet without me, but still needs my help from time to time. Someone that values a dollar, but also values quality. Someone that believes that tomorrow will always be better than yesterday while still cherishing memories. It’s amazing what a positive outlook and a smile can do.”

Amen to that!

My second appointment is a “be back”, lady I interviewed two weeks ago who decided to give Perfectly Matched a try. She is late 40’s, educated, has grown children, and her long term goal is eventually marriage.

She said “I have only been in one relationship since my long term marriage ended and what you said to me a couple of weeks ago that I should date, have fun, and explore my options, makes sense. As you pointed out, I really don’t have a basis of comparison as far as men are concerned. Eventually, I want to be married but I am in no hurry.”

She is self employed, financially secure, and loves her job.
She said “I can tell you love what you do, and so do I. I get up every morning excited about going to work and making things happen.”

She enjoys hiking, do-it-yourself projects, movies, the symphony, reading, shopping, golf, community service, travel, dining out, and spending time with family and friends.

She would like to meet a bigger man, at least 6’ tall because she is 5’10. Someone who has a good sense of humor, is intellectually compatible, and she is a “big sucker” for blue or green eyes.

My two brothers are in town this week to help me with the details of dealing with my dad’s estate. This will be an interesting experience! We get along well and trust each other, so that is a good place to start. I hope it all goes smoothly and we get a lot accomplished. My younger brother and I are pretty easy going, but my older brother is not. I had all my siblings take my profile test in 1993 and, on a scale of “0” to “10” in temperament, my oldest brother is a “5”, pretty direct and straight forward, to put it mildly.

When he came into town yesterday I had a chance to talk to him before our other brother arrived and I said “I hope we can all work together in a positive, constructive way, without any drama or negativity.”
He said “Well, we all know if anyone is going to be an asshole, it’s going to be me.” Then he said “Don’t worry, Sandy (his wife) has already given me “the talk” and told me if I want to keep the rest of my family (we also lost my sister this year), I better cool my jets and keep my mouth shut.” I love my sister-in-law!

To be continued………………………