September 21, 2011

My first appointment today is a man, early 40’s, divorced, educated, self employed, one teenager at home, and his long term goal is marriage. He runs a very successful business that has been family owned for over forty years. He is very open on his preferences, his height preference is 4’10 to 5’10, and his age preference is 30 to 50. He said “I have meet some 50 year old women I think are dynamite good looking.” He is a big guy, all muscle, who prefers trim, petite, slender women. He said “One of the reasons I am open to dating older women is because I like a lady who is confident, mature, well spoken, has a great demeanor and can take care of herself.” He enjoys race cars, motorcycles, working out, softball, hiking and is interested in always learning new things. He has heard about my service for years and has not met anyone he has been interested in for over two years. He said “I thought I might meet more serious minded ladies through your service and I am tired of meeting ladies who don’t know what they want, or they are looking for someone to rescue them.” I talked to him about seven ladies I thought would be good matches for him, ranging in age from 36 to 49, and the 49 year old was the one he responded to most positively. He definitely knows what he wants which will make my job much easier.

My second appointment is a lady, early 30’s, ABS, educated, a teacher, her long term goal is marriage and children. I told her my largest group of professional women are teachers. She said “That does not surprise me because there are not many men available in the teaching profession and most of them are married.” She ended a long term relationship a few months ago and is ready to start dating but does not want to make another mistake. She said “I don’t want to be having kids in my late 30’s. I spent over four years in this last relationship and my primary reason for ending it was I did not think he was the man I wanted to be the father of my children.” The economy effected his job a couple of years ago and he still has not found his niche. She said “Initially I was very patient and understanding but his lack of motivation became a sticking point.” He bought her an engagement ring and asked her to marry him thinking that would make her happy. She said “That was the deciding moment for me. He doesn’t have a job and he wanted to marry me and start a family.” She enjoys running, biking, hiking, snowboarding, tennis, theaters, concerts, plays, and traveling. She is tall, fit, pretty, and very positive and personable. She said “My brother keeps trying to find the right man for me but he has no clue about the physical attraction part, as far as the type of man I am attracted to.” The last man he set her up with was short, overweight, and nice as he could be, but she could not believe her brother would think she would find him attractive. I said “That is the biggest compliant I hear from people who get set up by their friends, that they don’t find them attractive.” She said “My brother said he has a ton of money and I was being too picky.” I said “I don’t think you are being too picky and it does not matter how much money someone has if you are not attracted to him. And tell your brother I can find you a man you are attracted to that has everything else, plus money.” She said “You go, girl!”

To be continued……..