April 13, 2013

My first appointment today is a man, mid 30’s, divorced, self employed, one child, his long term goal is marriage and more children.

He said “My divorce is the worst thing that has ever happened to me and my daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me. When you asked me on the phone if I was emotionally available and in the right frame of mind to meet someone new and move on, I said I was. I have been thinking about your question for a few days now, and I am not sure. How does someone know when they are ready to move on?”
I said “You told me it has been two years since you were separated and one year since you were divorced and you have not dated, the timing seems right. You must be thinking about it because you are sitting here talking to a matchmaker. Sometimes there is a fine line between when you are ready and when getting out there and meeting new ladies can help you move on.”
He said “I know I want more kids before I get much older but the idea of trusting a lady again scares the hell out of me. I never want to be divorced again.”
I said “Why don’t you focus on the positive; dating, having fun, making friends, exploring your options, and not look too far down the road? No one can guarantee you that you will never be divorced again, but I think your odds of meeting a lady you is right for you are much greater through my service. Let me finish the interview, and l will know better if I think this will work for you.”
He agreed to continue.

He is the salt of the earth type of man. Hard working, responsible, a great dad, helps his family, has lots of friends, financially responsible (he is already saving for his daughter’s college education), and always tries to do the right thing.

When I asked him about religion, he said “I was raised Protestant. I go to church occasionally and I pray. But mostly, I believe in the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
He believes you can connect with God anywhere and some on his most spiritual moments occur when he is out in nature, hiking, skiing, chopping wood, and building something with his hands. He built his own house with very little help. He is kind of a cowboy, very comfortable in Wranglers and boots, and a handsome fellow for sure.

After I had all his information, and talked to him about ladies I think are good matches for him, he said “I would never meet these kind of ladies on my own. You’re right. I am going to start thinking about having fun and meeting some nice ladies.”

Music to my ears, and he IS emotionally available.

Please enjoy my biweekly column, Dear Donna, in the Gazette at http://www.gazette.com/articles/flaw-153526-dating-secure.html

To be continued………………………