My first appointment is a lady, late 20’s, ABS, educated, her long term goal is marriage and children. She is tall and thin and beautiful. She has been reading Donna’s Daily Diary for a few months and one of the things that appeals most her about my service is that I do not show pictures when I make a match. She tried a couple of dating services online and initially she was excited about what might happen.
She said “I finished putting my profile online before I left for work and when I came home I had 110 responses.”
It took her hours to go through them and in the end she met three of them. She eliminated more than half because they did not live within a 100 mile radius, which she had requested. She was amazed at how many man responded that did not come close to meeting her preferences. Then she posted her profile on another online site and did not post her picture. When she returned home from work there were 12 responses and 10 of them were requesting a picture. She wants a relationship that is based on all the right things and a man who wants to be with her for all the right reasons, not just because he is physically attracted to her.
She enjoys snowboarding, hiking, concerts, working out, reading, scrapbooking, and wants to travel more. She went to Europe when she graduated from college and would love to go back with someone special and spend two or three weeks.
She said “I am ready to be married and I would like to wait a couple of years to start a family. If I meet him soon we could spend a couple of years really getting to know one another and do some traveling before having children. That would be ideal!”
My second appointment is a man, late 40’s, divorced, no kids, self employed, very successful, and his long term goal is a serious relationship, possibly marriage. He ended a three year relationship a few months ago and has been trying the online services. He has met about a dozen ladies and there has been no interest on his part to see any of them a second time.
He said “It is becoming difficult to get excited about meeting someone when it is one disappointment after another.” The last lady put off meeting him for two months. She put him off one week at a time until he finally said “let’s meet or else move on.” She did not look like her picture and was much heavier than her profile implied.
He said “She said she had an athletic build and she was at least 30 pounds overweight.” She assured him she was on a fast track to lose weight but he was not at all interested in her.
He said “It wasn’t just the weight, it was the fact that she ignored most of the preferences I listed and wasted two months of my time. We agreed to meet for coffee and she ordered lunch and kept dragging the meeting out when it was obvious I was not interested.”
He went home and deleted his online profile. He has heard about Perfectly Matched for years and seen my ads many times but thought he would be able to find the right lady on his own.
He said “This has become a part time job and I am getting nowhere.” He was very impressed with the ladies I spoke with him about that I think are good matches for him.
When I shared the price list he said “If I had come to you before I started dating I would have thought this was too expensive but when I think about what I have spent already it probably totals more than this.”
He tried to convince me to match him for no fee with the promise of doubling my fee if I find the right lady. It has been awhile since I have had a “bonus guy”.
I said “How about you pay the same as everyone else and if I find you the right lady you can double my fee.”
My service is based on how many matches you purchase and there is no time frame. After a few more suggestions on his part we agreed that he would pay my regular fee but if he did not think the lady I matched him with was a good match I would not count it as a match.
I said “OK, that’s a deal.” What I did not tell him is that I do that for everyone. He will never know unless he reads Donna’s Daily Dairy.
My third appointment today is a lady, mid 30’s, ABS (always been single), educated, an admitted workaholic, her long term goal is marriage, and she can go either way as for as having children.
She said “I am torn about whether or not I want a child. I love my job. I am challenged, fulfilled and excited to go to work every day. I think about having a baby and immediately miss the idea of not working.”
It amazes me that someone her age still thinks she has all the time in the world to decide whether or not she wants to have children. If she met the right man today, got married in a year or two, got pregnant and had a baby, she would be almost 40.
When I pointed that out she said “I could always adopt.” She is very politically involved and that is a passion for her as well. She sees herself completing for a political office at some point and I just don’t see how a baby fits into this picture. However, look at Sarah Palin. I guess where there is a will there is a way. She is very much a type “A” personality, on a scale of “0” to “10” her temperament score is a “4”..direct, straight forward, no bull, she tells it like it is, and she has no patience for a man who “pussy foots around.” I thought that was an interesting choice of words.
She is now a new client and she said “Donna, just find me the right man and I will take it from there.” No doubt, she will.
Feedback today from a lady who has gone out with a man three times that I introduced to her… “He opens doors, pulls out my chair, says please and thank you, compliments what I am wearing, likes my perfume, is always on time, plans great dates, and pays for everything. I just can’t figure out what’s wrong with him.”
I said “Try this. Focus on the positive and quit looking for what’s wrong.” Maybe the only thing wrong is that she has not met a gentleman like him before. Time will tell.
To be continued………………………….