August 8, 2012

My first appointment today is a lady, early 40’s, divorced, highly educated, grade school children, and her long term goal is marriage. I ask anyone who calls me where they heard about my service.
She said “I have seen your ads on the restroom walls, my ex-husband came to see you, and although he did not become a client, he encouraged me to call you.” She then went online to my website and called me.
It always impresses me when two people are divorced, but they still have each other’s best interest at heart. I have that kind of relationship with my ex-husband and it definitely makes life easier.

She loves to travel, and her ex hated to fly, so that did not happen much during her marriage. In the few years she has been divorced she has been to Germany, Austria, Venice, and Paris. She loves water sports, ocean kayaking and white water rafting. She enjoys sporting events, especially baseball. She has been to many concerts at Red Rocks, she enjoys easy hiking, and she has no interest in camping.

She said “I want a man who knows how to be a gentleman, opens doors, pulls out chairs, and likes to pamper me.” She has had two semi serious relationships since her divorce and, because she has a very substantial income, the men have not been on a compatible level with her.
She said “It really doesn’t matter to me, and they say it doesn’t matter to them, but I end up paying for everything.”
I said “That’s why it SHOULD matter to you. Compatible incomes mean you can make similar lifestyle choices and you will be most compatible with someone who can make the same lifestyle choices as you.”

She is obviously active, but she is not petite.
She said “I don’t want to meet a man who is looking for a tiny, thin woman, that is not me, and that never will be me.” She is absolutely beautiful..gorgeous skin, fabulous smile, beautiful hair, impeccably dressed, and according to my height/weight chart she has measurements similar to Marilyn Monroe and Jane Mansfield (for those of you who don’t know who Jane Mansfield was, Google her)….NOT Twiggy! She is sweet, open minded, very affectionate, financially responsible and secure, and has a great sense of humor.

I love that her ex-husband sent her in my direction!

Time for a Dad update. First of all, he is still alive, despite everyone’s predictions that he should have died at least four months ago. He is still in his home, and I am currently juggling 14 shifts, with four ladies every week. Until today, it was just two ladies with Home Instead (a personal care agency I highly recommend) filling in when those two ladies could not cover all the shifts. 8am to 8pm and 8pm to 8am. I think I finally have a team in place that will provide great care for him, and establish a consistent schedule that we can stick to on a weekly basis. My Dad’s will to live continues to amaze me. He has a hiatal hernia that has basically put his stomach up into his chest cavity and causes him a lot of pain. I won’t go into all the details, other than to say I am determined to do what I can to help him. My brother took him to three doctors when he had him in Florida eight months ago. I have taken him to two doctors here in Colorado Springs. No one will do the surgery because he is 89, has COPD, congestive heart failure, which all came about for the first time in April 2011. He says to me over and over “Why won’t anyone listen to me? I will sign anything, I will do anything. I will risk dying to get rid of this pain. Someone should be able to fix me, or at least try. No one will even talk to me about it.”
His mind is as sharp as a tack, and I made a commitment to him today to start over. Call every doctor we have been to who told us he would be dead by now, to find a new doctor who might offer some hope, to get him into the Jewish Medical Center, which he has gone online and researched and sees as his best hope. He has two 12 inch rods, 14 two inch screws, and two brackets in his back from a surgery in 2005. He has a rod from his hip to his knee from a fall in 2010. He fell and broke five ribs in 2011. He is a veteran who was a pilot in WWII, the Korean War, the Berlin Airlift (the one he says everyone forgets), AND Vietnam. He survived all of that, and cannot understand why there is not somebody who can help him with this hiatal hernia. They say it’s because if they put him to sleep for the surgery he won’t wake up. He says he’s willing to take that chance. I have to find a doctor to is willing to take that chance with him. Any suggestions, recommendations and comments will be greatly appreciated. This is one of those “has nothing to do with matchmaking, but everything to do with life” entries.

To be continued…….