Dear Donna: February 22nd, 2020

Dear Donna,

I met a man three months ago and we have seen each other four times.
Each time we get together we have a good time and he seems to enjoy it as much as I do. However, two or three weeks will pass before we see each other again.

He texts me a few times a week but it's very casual and brief.
I always acknowledge his text and let him know I would like to see him again but the pace does not seem to pick up and we still see each other every two or three weeks.

I feel like this is going nowhere fast because each time we meet it is like starting all over again. He says he wants to get to know me better and would like to spend more time with me but it doesn't happen.

Should give this more time or just let it go?


Dear Allison,

If you have to drag someone along in the beginning, it is not usually a good sign.
Make sure you are on the same page as far as your expectations.
Does he think of this as just friendship or dating with the potential for romance?

If you have been together only four times in three months, it is like starting all over again. Most people seem to get together at least once or twice a week when they start dating.

I would encourage you to look at him as someone who might be a friend and keep your options open to date other men.
He is either not interested enough or spending time with you is not a priority.


Dear Donna,

I bought my girlfriend a beautiful diamond necklace for Valentine's Day then she dumped me.

We have been dating for a couple of months and she basically took me to the jewelry store so I could buy her something for Valentine's Day.
It was more than I could afford so I did a payment plan for six months.

I asked her to give it back to me so I could return it to the store and she does not respond to my calls or texts.
I sent her a copy of the receipt and the payment plan and asked her to make the payments. Again, no response.
What else can I do? Jess

Dear Jess,

For future reference, if someone who have known for only two months is taking you to a jewelry store and encouraging you to buy something you cannot afford, she does not have your best interest at heart.

I am afraid you will have to pay for the necklace and chalk this up to a learning experience.