December 13, 2011

My first appointment today is a lady, early 30’s, ABS, highly educated, her long term goal is marriage and children. She is very pretty and fit and, although her sociability score told me she was very shy, it seemed a bit odd to me that she had no relationship experience. I said “Why do you think you have never had a serious relationship or even dated?

She said “I just kept putting it on the back burner. First, I wanted to finish college, then I decided to get my Master’s degree, then I wanted to own a home, and I did not want anything to detract from my focus.” She said the men who were interested in her always seemed too immature and irresponsible. She also admitted that her shyness had inhibited her.

I said “On a scale of “0” to “10” in sociability your score is a “3”, which is very shy, and I can appreciate it must be very hard for you to make the call to come and meet with me.”

She said “I read your daily diaries and I like that you work alone, and that you have done this for so many years, and I know I need help. I would love to be married and be a mother but I don’t go to bars, or church, and I spend most of my time with my family and friends. People are always trying to fix me up with someone and it never works. I thought maybe a Matchmaker could do a better job.”

As the interview progressed and she became more comfortable I discovered she is a bright, funny, sweet, quick witted person and loves to laugh. She skis, hikes, bikes, enjoys camping, fishing, cooking, movies, traveling, photography, tennis, reading, gardening and yoga. I said “Who do you do all those things with?” She has six siblings and over a dozen nieces and nephews. She said “If you told my family I was shy they would have a hard time believing it, except for my mother.” I said “You aren’t shy around your family because you are comfortable with them and you know them.” She likes that I know she is shy and that I understand the man who will be most compatible with her will also enjoy quiet time at home.

I asked her if she was going to tell anyone she had joined a dating service and she said “No, they would drive me crazy with a million questions. When I meet someone I care about and they ask me how I met him I will tell them I went to a Matchmaker and they will be stunned.” I said “Here’s to the day you get to stun your family and friends.”

My second appointment is a lady, late 40’s, divorced , grown children, educated, very successful, financially secure, and her long term goal is marriage. Today was my day for pretty women walking through my door. She is beautiful, very fit, classy, immaculately dressed and most people would think a lady like this would never go to a dating service. Finding the right person is actually harder for very attractive people because they are usually only attracted to other very attractive people. She has wonderful children she is so proud of, siblings and parents she is very close to, a job she loves, financial freedom and good health, but her wants and needs, as far as a man is concerned, are not much different from anyone else’s. She wants a compatible man to marry and share the rest of her life. And, like most of us, she has been humbled and hurt by a couple of her relationship experiences.

She works out 5 to 6 hours a week, does the Incline often, skis, has season tickets to the Broncos, loves live music, concerts, the symphony, travel, especially international travel, and she loves, loves, loves to cook and entertain. She said “There is not much that tops cooking a great meal with someone and enjoying a great bottle of wine.”

She was very impressed with the men I was able to talk to her about whom I think would be compatible matches. The question is always “Why would someone like him come to a dating service?” The answer is always “For the same reason you are here, they are not meeting the right person on their own.”

She said “I have heard about your service and seen your ads for years, but it was my sister’s recommendation that I look into a dating service. I Goggled dating services, your service came up first and I immediately remembered hearing and seeing your ads.” She then went to my website and found herself reading my daily dairies. She liked what she read, including the fact that I am offering 50% off all my programs until December 17th. She said “For two hundred dollars more I can get twice the number of matches.” She invested in my most expensive program and we agreed on who her first match will be…I can’t wait to call this fellow. I am going to say “I have an early Christmas present for you!”

To be continued…..