My first appointment today is a man, mid 50’s, divorced, educated, children that are grown and on their own, and also children still at home, shared custody, and his long term goal is marriage. He interviewed with me a few months ago and was going to wait until after the first of the year to participate but he decided to take advantage of my offer of 50% off all my programs until December 17th. He was in a long term marriage that ended about a year ago and feels he is emotionally available to start dating again. I really enjoy helping people who have not dated for many years (in his case almost 30 years) to start dating again.
When I asked him his preferences for a lady as far as age, height, education level, race, physical attraction, etc., he said “I honestly don’t know, I haven’t thought about this for so many years. I am going to trust your judgment.” Which is one of the reason I enjoy helping someone who is just starting to date after so many years. They have no preconceived notions, they are not jaded, they are very open to my suggestions, they do not start with a list of “must haves” and “cannot tolerant”, and they approach the meeting of each new match with an open mind.
I asked him what he likes to do for fun, hobbies, sports, and other activities. He said “I have been so busy working and raising kids that those kinds of things have gone on the backer burner.” I said “What would be fun?” He said “I used to hike and bowl, enjoy baseball games, going to concerts and the theater and I am open to what the lady might like to do.” It is obvious he is a hard worker and a devoted father. I said “It is time for you to meet some quality, compatible ladies and have some FUN!” That inspired the biggest smile and he said “That sounds like a great idea.” He is a really good man and I have some great matches for him.
My second appointment is a man, late 40’s, divorced, highly educated, has shared custody of his children, his long term goal is a serious relationship and possibly marriage. He has only dated one lady since he has been divorced and that relationship lasted a little over a year. He has been reading my daily dairies and agrees with me that he should date, have fun, and explore his options. He said “I learned a lot about myself in that relationship but being single again is a totally new experience and I want to date more effectively. I like what I read on your daily diaries and I am certain I will meet more serious minded ladies through your service than on the internet.”
He has a great sense of fun and is enjoying getting out and spending time with his buddies. He is happy to be single and excited about dating. He enjoys tennis, skiing, mountain biking, working out, loves all kinds of music and has season tickets to the symphony. He is also a devoted father, and has his children every other week. I told him I think that is the best schedule for couples who are divorced and sharing custody because it gives you half of your time to focus on your personal life.
I interviewed him yesterday and he said he wanted to think about it and call me back today. Obviously, he was true to his word, and decided to come back tonight. He said “One other thing you can put on my profile is I am a really good kisser, or so I have been told.” He has already done his Ideal Relationship and here is a part of it :
“I am not looking to spend every minute together, as I think it is good to have some independent interests. I am a romantic, affectionate guy, and I love to send hand written notes, give you flowers, hold hands, and kiss (really love kissing). Great conversation is a must, as I want her to feel comfortable discussing anything from current events, sports, books, to kids and work. I like all sports (football and hockey the most), music (live and recorded), reading, movies, and cooking.
I think he really loves kissing!
To be continued…………………….