February 16, 2011

My first appointment on Tuesday is a man, early 40’s, divorced, has children, is self employed and his long term goal is marriage. Currently, he is in Colorado Springs every other week but he plans to move here full time in the next few months. His ex-wife moved here with their children and he physically lives in a different state every other week to keep his connection and commitment to his kids. Fortunately, he is self employed and financially in a place where he can do whatever it takes to be with his children. I know there are two sides to every story and I am only hearing his, but I can only imagine what it must feel like to go from a long term marriage to where he is now. Is he ready for a serious relationship? No. Is he ready to date, have fun and make some friends? Yes. You have to start somewhere and when you are new in town and only here 50% of the time (for now), where do you start? His faith is his most motivating score. He is a strong believer and wants a lady who will “get down on her knees and pray with me.” He understands there are a number of issues a lady could have with his situation but the issues will work themselves out in time and I think he deserves to get started on making his personal a priority again and meeting some nice ladies.

My second appointment on Tuesday is a lady, early 40’s, divorced, has a great job she loves, has children , one teenage child still at home, and her long term goal is marriage. She is very physically active, skiing, snowboarding, ice climbing, mountain climbing, hiking, photography and motorcycles. When it comes to computers she said she “can code ‘um and build ‘um.” She was very young when she had her first child and her youngest child will be in college in a couple of years. Of course she loves her children but she is looking forward to living on her own. She said “I can tell you one thing for sure, I don’t want to be cleaning up after anyone. I have done enough of that to last a lifetime.” I said “You will be in your mid 40’s when you have an empty nest. You still have tons of time to enjoy life with a compatible partner.” She said she wanted to “think about” investing in Perfectly Matched and she would get back to me next month. I have some great matches for her.

My first appointment on Wednesday is a lady, late 40’s, ABS, educated, successful career woman and her long term goal is marriage. She has always been single but she has had a long term, off and on, relationship. “Off and on” relationships can take years of your life and keep you from being emotionally available to others, even when you are “off”. She is emotionally available and ready to make her personal life a priority. She enjoys exercise, movies, snorkeling, and would like to do some traveling. She is also new to Colorado Springs and would love to see more of Colorado, go to wine tastings, concerts, and have some fun. She is fit and healthy and she appreciates a man who takes care of himself. Although her family does not live in Colorado, she is very close to her parents, siblings, and numerous nieces and nephews. She loves kids but she would rather meet someone whose children are grown, or almost grown. I said “On each match you will know how many kids he has, how old they are, where they live, and how much time he spends with them. You can consider each one individually and I will be happy to share any additional information that is appropriate to help you decide.” I also have some great matches for her.

I have had a couple of requests for a “Dad update”. He is doing better than he has since his back surgery in 2005. The fine balance between the medicine, the pain, and his mental state of mind seems to be achieved. He had a steroid shot that has eased his back pain, some. I spent a few hours with him recently and we went to the Depot in Palmer Lake, his favorite place. Then we went to dinner at the Texas Road House, his second favorite place. He is not very steady on his feet and that is worrisome but he is doing physical therapy. He has not lost his edge. When the hostess was going to seat us he said “Don’t put me next to any kids!” She led us to the bar area where there were no kids. He said “I should of thought of this before, from now I am going to just say ‘take me to the bar’ then I don’t have to put up with any damn kids.” Lovely fellow.

To be continued………………………..