February 25, 2011

My first appointment today is a man, late 20’s, ABS, one young child, and his long term goal is marriage. He is also open to having more children in the right situation. He has fought long and hard to have custody of his child and now that he has had custody for a couple of years he feels he can make his personal life a priority again. The mother of this child was not a good parent. She was involved with drugs and alcohol and obviously not in a good place to raise a child. In spite of that, it took him eight years to gain custody and it only happened because the mother went to jail. I have so much empathy for parents who have to endure their children being in situations they know are unhealthy and possibly harmful to them because the court determines who has the custody. I cannot imagine trying to go to sleep at night wondering whether or not my child is safe. He feels like a miracle has occurred and he goes to sleep knowing his child is safe and sound in the next room. He still wakes up and thinks he’s dreaming. He is tall and husky and a teddy bear kind of guy. He is also extremely easy going, a “9” on a scale of “0” to “10”. His mother, sister and brother-in-law all support his decision to get involved with Perfectly Matched. He said “My family wants me to find someone special as much as I do.” He plans to come back next week when he gets his tax return.

My second appointment is a lady, mid 60’s, divorced, educated, grown children, and her long term goal is marriage. She is an avid skier and it would practically be a requirement for her compatible match to be a skier. She goes almost every weekend and has a condo at a ski resort. Skiing has been a family activity for many years and other family members also have condos in the same resort. They celebrate the holidays, birthdays, graduations, and most other special occasions at the condos enjoying skiing and each other’s company. I have some good matches for her but only a couple of them ski. She is going to take the weekend to think about it and I am going to go through my files more closely and see if I can find some more skiers. Normally I would not put so much focus on one activity but I do not see how anyone could be in her life and not be a skier, neither does she.

My third appointment is a man, late 40’s, divorced, no kids, self employed, very successful, and his long term goal is a serious relationship, possibly marriage. He ended a six year relationship a few months ago and has been trying the online services. He has met about a dozen ladies and there has been no interest on his part to see any of them a second time. He said “It is becoming difficult to get excited about meeting someone when it is one disappointment after another.” The last lady put off meeting him for two months because she was trying to lose weight. She put him off one week at a time until he finally said “let’s meet or else move on.” She did not look like her picture and was much heavier than her profile implied. He said “She said she had an athletic build and she was at least 40 pounds overweight.” She assured him she was on a fast track to lose weight but he was not at all interested in her. He said “It wasn’t just the weight, it was the fact that she ignored most of the preferences I listed and wasted two months of my time. We agreed to meet for coffee and she ordered lunch and kept dragging the meeting out when it was obvious I was not interested.” Two agonizing hours later he went home and deleted his online profile. He has heard about Perfectly Matched for years and seen my ads many times but thought he would be able to find the right lady on his own. He said “This has become a part time job and I am getting nowhere.” He was very impressed with the ladies I spoke with him about that I think are good matches for him. When I shared the price list he said “If I had come to you before I started dating I would have thought this was too expensive but when I think about what I have spent already it probably totals more than this.” He tried to convince me to match him for no fee with the promise of doubling my fee if I find the right lady. It has been awhile since I have had a “bonus guy”. I said “How about you pay the same as everyone else and if I find you the right lady you can double my fee.” My service is based on how many matches you purchase and there is no time frame. After a few more suggestions on his part we agreed that he would pay my regular fee but if he did not think the lady I matched him with was a good match I would not count it as a match. I said “OK, that’s a deal.” What I did not tell him is that I do that for everyone. He will never know unless he reads Donna’s Daily Dairy.

To be continued…………………..