January 2, 2012

Happy New Year! I enjoy the holidays but it is always fun for me when they are over. January is almost always my busiest month in business because “doing something about my personal life” is right up there on the list on New Year’s resolutions with “losing weight”. A new year, a new start, a new approach to finding someone special.

My first appointment is a lady, mid 40’s, divorced, one grown child, and her long term goal is marriage. She originally met with me over ten years ago. She decided not to participate at that time but after off and on dating with the online services for much of that time she has decided to let me help her. Her complaints about the online services are the same ones I hear all the time; time consuming, ineffective, people are not honest, they do not look like their pictures, and they live all over the country. She said “Doing online dating is like a part time job, it takes so much time.”

She travels during the week with her job but she is home on weekends and, in spite of all the traveling she does, she loves driving and taking road trips. She also enjoys spectator sports and has season tickets to one of Colorado’s hockey teams. She likes camping, fishing, gardening, bowling, dancing, music, concerts, comedy clubs, cowboys, and county fairs with greasy food and beer.

In her Ideal Relationship she wrote “My ideal relationship would be with a man who respects and cherishes me as a lady, a companion/friend and lover. We will treasure family values and have each other’s back. I think flirting with one another, PDA and romance should never get old. We will not take everything that life throws at us too seriously….there is always time for laughter.”

She is tall, blonde, and beautiful with a great sense of humor. She wants a manly man who can swoop her up in his arms and make her feel safe and protected. I’m thinking the John Wayne type would probably do just fine.

My second appointment is a man, mid 40’s, divorced, grown children, and his long term goal is marriage. I said “Have you dated since you have been divorced?” He said “I have never dated.” He met his wife right out of high school and he has not dated since he has been divorced. He was very open and forthright with me about the fact that he has been working on some of his issues the last couple of years and is just now feeling ready to date. I always appreciate someone who takes responsibility for their part in why the marriage did not work and he has definitely done his homework.

He said “I feel like I have been in a fog the last 20 years, just letting life pass me by, and now I want to find the right lady and do the right things to have the right relationship.” He is a little shy and he knows he can use some help when it comes to dating. I said “Well, you have come to the right place, because after 25 years, I do more counseling than matchmaking.”

He wants to think about it for a couple of days and get back to me. My gut feeling is he will be back.

Tomorrow I have three appointments but four people coming in for interviews. Once more, I am going to interview two girlfriends at one time. I asked the lady who called for both of them where she heard about my service and she said “I have been listening to your commercials since I was a little girl.” Suddenly I felt very old. I said “How old are you?” She said “34.” She was 13 when she first heard my commercial..yikes! The other two appointments are a man, mid 60’s, and a lady, mid 40’s.

It will be a very interesting day.

To be continued………………………….