January 4, 2011

My first appointment today is a man, early 30’s, divorced, no kids, working on his education and fairly new to Colorado Springs. His long term goal is marriage and he is open to having children, or not. He is a very bright guy, into the arts and has a long term goal of teaching a love and appreciate for art, especially to younger people. He reminds me of some of the people I met when my daughter was in college in Boulder. He has a passion for what he is doing and he has taken a diverse path to find his passion. The good news is, he has found it. The bad news is, he lives on a limited income, for the time being. He could not afford to make the financial investment in my service today, but he feels he will be ready to do so in a couple of months. I think he will be back. Like everyone I work with, he truly wants to find his right mate, and he is tired of getting nowhere fast.

My second appointment is a lady, late 40’s, divorced, grown kids, educated, a nurse, and when I asked her what her long term goal was as far as a relationship was concerned she said “I don’t know, I’m not sure, I haven’t thought about it.” I said “You are recently divorced from a long term marriage. You should just date and have fun and make friends.” She said “OK” and we laughed. She has not dated for 25 years and she is shy. She said “I looked at one of the online services but I would not click on anyone because I did not want them to know I had clicked on them.” What she did notice was most of the men looked much younger than their age. I said “Their pictures were probably dated or overly flattering.” That is, by far, the biggest complaint I hear from people who have tried online dating. She loves to dance, and always has. She said “I have always loved to dance and I told myself I would never marry a man who did not love to dance, then, I DID!” I said “I bet one out of three women could say that, I know I did.” She loves music and concerts and some of her favorites were surprisingly young. She was referred to me by a former client and when I put the price list in front of her she said “I am going to do this.” I said “Why don’t you make it easy for me and tell me what you really want to do.” I think she had made up her mind before she came in but she was very impressed with the men I thought would be good matches for her. She said “How do you do this? Where is your computer? You can’t possibly have all this in your head.” She is going to have so much fun and I am going to make it much easier for her to meet quality compatible men and start dating.

Tomorrow I have three appointments, a man, mid 50’s who was a previous client, a lady, late 70’s, who would not take no for an answer when I told her I did not think I would have any options for her. I cannot help but think of the 83 year old lady who married the 79 year old man I matched her with when she would not take no for an answer. The third appointment is a lady, early 40’s, ABS, educated, and her long term goal is “negotiable”. I will find out what that means tomorrow……

To be continued……………………….