My first appointment yesterday is a lady, late 40’s, widowed, a massage therapist, has one child still at home and the other children are grown. Her long term goal is marriage. She has been married twice and was in the process of a divorce when her second husband died. She said “I don’t want to give up the idea that I could still find my soul mate and live happily ever after.” She has been hearing and seeing my ads for years and decided her odds of meeting the right man would be much greater through a service where men are serious enough to pay money to meet the right person. She said “Don’t you have more women than men coming to a dating service?” I said “Under 35 I have more men, over 55 I have more women and today I have the most activity in the 40’s.” She is going to call me back at the end of the month and come back to join. She is a “4” in finance and only uses her credit card for emergencies. She said, “I should be able to come up with the money by the end of the month, I am going to make this a priority.”
My first appointment today is a lady, mid 50’s, ABS, educated, self employed, and her long term goal is marriage. She is tall, thin, attractive, financially stable and secure. This is one of those people many people would say “why on earth would she need a dating service to meet a man?” As I have said before, it is actually harder for people who have a lot to offer to find the right person because they need to find someone who has as much to offer them in return. Looking much younger than her age, she has typically dated men younger than herself. Most of the matches I talked to her about were men her same age and I asked her if that discouraged her. She said “No, because they sound like great quality men and it has not been my preference to date younger men so much as it has been younger men who are interested in me.” I also pointed out that all of these men were on an equal or higher income level and that appealed to her. She was referred to me by different people who had positive things to say about my service and she has also seen and heard my ads for years. She is an “8.5” in temperament and, although she said she was sure we would be working together, she wants to think about it for a week or two. It never surprises me when someone has a high temperament score tells me they need to “think about it” and I never hard sell, but I will be surprised if she is not a new client soon.
My second appointment is a man, late 40’s, divorced, grown kids, a realtor, and his long term goal is finding a lady to hopefully share the rest of his life. He said “I loved being married and when my marriage was working it was the best feeling in the world. I want to feel that again and I will work much harder to do my part.” He loved his ex wife and he was very surprised when she told him she was not happy in their marriage. Unfortunately, although he was willing to try to work things out, it was already over for her. She moved to another state to be closer to their daughter and grandchildren and decided not to come back. He has not dated since he has been divorced because he thought she might change her mind, even though they are divorced for two years. He visited his daughter for the holidays and met his ex wife’s new boyfriend. He said “He is s really nice man and they seem very happy together. I am happy for her and I know it is time for me to move on with my life.” They had a real heart to heart talk and he had a chance to apologize to her. He said “I definitely took her and our marriage for granted and I will never do that again.” The good news is he built a very successful business and now he has much more time to focus on his personal life. I have some great matches for him and he is excited about meeting new ladies. He said “I am so confident in every other area of my life but I have no idea how to date or where to start, it has been almost 30 years since I dated.” I said “That’s my job now.” He said “OK, coach.” My male clients often refer to me as “coach”. I guess it’s a guy thing.
To be continued…………………………..