July 16, 2011

My first appointment on Friday is a man, early 50’s, divorced, highly educated, self employed, grown children and his long term goal is a committed, long term relationship, possibly marriage. He has been divorced for several years and his last serious relationship ended eight months ago. He considered trying the internet dating services but he does not want his picture and information online. He Googled dating services in Colorado Springs and found my website. He read some of my daily dairies and said “It was reassuring to read about other people going through the same things I have experienced.” He said “I have been ready to start dating again for a few months but there has been one disappointment after another. It is starting to feel like a lot of wasted time.” He has been meeting ladies mostly through friends and by chance. Friends have the best intentions, but based on what many people have shared with me, friends make the worst matches. He said “A friend of mine thought I would be a great match for her coworker. It was one of the most awkward meetings and I didn’t want to offend my friend, but I could not believe she thought this lady was a good match for me.” Friends are often off the mark when it comes to plugging in physical attraction. He enjoys golf, light hiking, photography, cooking, travel, and the arts. Santa Fe is one of his favorite weekend getaways. He said “I have been in love with two wonderful ladies and I hope the third one will be the charm.”

My second appointment is a “be back”, a lady I interviewed on the 5th. She appears to be a great match for a man I have matched many times. He dated one lady for several months when I first started matching him but nothing has really clicked in the last year and a half. She has perfect scores with him, many shared interests, the same long term goal, marriage, and physically I think she is definitely his cup of tea. She reminds me of Grace Kelly. He will probably want to come in and see her picture before they meet and she said “That’s fine, but I thought you did not show pictures.” I said “I don’t usually show pictures but it can be an option at some point. I would rather show a picture than continue to disappoint someone by introducing them to people they do not find attractive.” She said “Is he too picky?” I said “Not really, he just has not met the right lady. Maybe Cupid has been saving him for you!” I am confident he will be attracted to her but I have no experience matching her to have a good feel for the type of man she finds attractive. I think he is a good looking man but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I will make the match and leave the rest to Cupid.

My first appointment on Saturday is a lady, mid 30’s, divorced, educated, a teacher, has two children and her long term goal is marriage. She lives in a small town about an hour from Colorado Springs and is not meeting anyone she is remotely interested in getting to know better. She Googled me and drove an hour to meet with me. I knew she was serious. She is tall, athletic, active and enjoys anything outdoors, especially hiking and mountain biking. She said “All my friends are in their 40’s and I feel more comfortable with a man who is older.” She does not want to meet anyone younger than her and she feels she can comfortably date up to 47.” She said “Don’t match me with any nerdy, skinny guys. He has to be at least my size or larger.” I told her that preference was true of almost all my female clients. We already agreed on her first match and he is 47, 6’4 and 230. She said “Perfect!”

My second appointment on Saturday is a lady, mid 40’s, divorced, educated, no children, and her long term goal is marriage. A friend of hers called me initially for some information. He wants to help her find a good man because he thinks she deserves a good man and she has been spinning her wheels for years in a relationship that has been more off than on. She owns her business and frequently travels internationally. She has met some fascinating men but they live on the other side of the planet. She is drawn to European men but they are in short supply in Colorado Springs. She likes a “high powered” guy and does not think someone who works 9 to 5 would be a good match for her. She is very pretty, but not looking for Mr GQ. In fact, she said “You would be surprised at some of the men I find attractive. I already had the drop dead gorgeous husband and I am not hung up on physical attraction.” She hikes, downhill skis, enjoys travel for pleasure as well as for work and usually fits a few extra days into her trips to have fun and explore. Someone who can join her on her trips occasionally would be a big plus. Although she does not have children, she would love to have been a mother and she is very open to men who have children. At the end of the interview she said she would like to talk to her friend and have a few days to “think about it.” I am pretty sure he is going to give her a thumbs up but I am not sure she is convinced I have the kind of men she would like to meet. I told her “Even if I don’t have your perfect match right now, the odds that he will walk through my door are better than the odds he will walk into your life.” She agreed, we’ll see.

To be continued……………………………….