My first appointment today is a man, mid 40’s, divorced, educated, self employed, one grown child, and his long term goal is a serious, committed relationship, very possibly marriage.
He said “A few years ago I would not have considered marriage, but my first and only marriage was a good one, for the most part. I have been single for almost eight years and I have had two relationships during that time. I am ready to date again and I find myself thinking about all the things I liked about being married. I like the peace of mind that we were truly committed to each other. I like the thought of going home to someone I can’t wait to see. I like the fun of planning things together. I like being a husband. I never was comfortable being referred to as a boyfriend.”
He wants to have passion in his next relationship.
He said “Physical intimacy is very important to me, and that was missing in both of the relationships I have had since being divorced. In the beginning, I felt they were both very affectionate, but it was a lot of work for me to keep the spark alive by myself.”
He bought flowers, cards, left love notes, planned romantic dinners and trips, but always felt let down by the response those efforts generated.
He said “My brother-in-law and sister have been married for 20 years and they are so into each other that at family gatherings someone almost always ends up saying “you two should get a room”. I want someone who is as crazy about me as I am about her, and I want to have FUN!”
He enjoys hiking, cross country skiing, cooking, theater, concerts, sporting events, music, dancing, and traveling.
He said “I had two of the best seats at a championship AV’s game a couple of years ago. It was a close, exciting game and she wanted to leave early to beat the traffic.”
In spite of his less than enthusiastic experiences with ladies, he said “I know I sound jaded, but I’m not. I lovewomen! I think I just haven’t met the right woman, and I think the chances of finding her with your help will be so much greater than what I have done so far.”
Of course I agreed, and now I have the opportunity to find him a very affectionate, fun lady. Those two qualities very often go hand-in-hand. What a surprise!
To be continued……..