My first appointment today is a “be back”, a lady I interviewed a year ago, late 30’s, highly educated, divorced, grade school children, her goal term goal is a serious, committed relationship and she would consider marriage.
She said “When I interviewed with you a year ago I thought was ready to date, but I am so much more ready today than I was then.”
I said “It is very common for people to think they are ready sooner than they are, and it is only in looking back that they that they realize they are in a much better place now than they were then.”
She loves racquetball, enjoys mountain biking, hiking, gardening, musicals, comedy clubs, dancing, dining out, wine tastings, movies and spectator sports.
She said “I also can do the “guy” stuff, plumbing, fencing, working on cars.”
She asked me what I thought an appropriate time frame was for introducing her children to a man that she feels has long term potential .
I said “Most of my clients seem to wait about three months before they bring the kids into the picture, depending on the ages of the kids.”
She said “I think I would wait about six months because my kids really want me to have a man in my life and I would not want to risk introducing them to someone they get attached to only to have it not work out.”
I said “Well, the good thing is your kids really want you to have a man in your life. I can tell you for sure it is much more difficult when they do NOT want you to date.”
She said “My kids are PERFECT!” We both laughed because she knew how exaggerated that sounds, but I told her I understood because my kids are perfect too.
Her scores tell me she is an easy going, outgoing, open-minded, romantic, financially responsible lady and that is the kind of man I will look to find for her.
My second appointment is a lady, late 20’s, educated, ABS (always been single), her long term goal is marriage and children. When she walked through my door I thought, she is exactly the type of person most people would look at and think “why would someone who looks like her have to go to a dating service?” She is beautiful, tall, thin, and has the face of an angel. I always appreciate someone her age being serious minded enough to call me.
She is very shy, and very affectionate. She has had two serious relationships and she is already tired of leaving this important part of her life to chance.
She said “I am looking for a more effective way to meet the right man, and, after reading your website I thought this has to be a better way to approach it.”
She said “Most people don’t think I am shy, they think I am standoffish, or stuck up.”
I said “Do you think you are shy?”
She said “Oh yes, and that makes it even harder for me to meet someone new.”
She loves camping, hiking, fishing, gardening, theater, and spending time with her friends. She is very budget minded and not at all high maintenance.
When I asked her physically what was important to her as far as a man is concerned she said “I want a man’s man, someone who looks masculine and is not too thin. I hate to sound cliché, but tall, dark and handsome will work.”
It usually does……
To be continued……..