March 23, 2011

My first appointment today is a lady, late 40’s, divorced, children, self employed, very pretty, physically fit, and her long term goal is marriage. Most people would look at her and guess her to be in her late 30’s and her lifestyle is more reflective of someone in their late 30’s. She is a strong believer, an “8.5” on a scale of “0” to “10”. Her faith is very important to her but she is careful not to judge someone who does not go to church because she has learned that their morals and values may have little to do with whether or not they go to church. She is very physically active and enjoys skiing, tennis, golf, hiking, biking, and spending time with her family and kids. She said if there was one activity she had to pick over all the others it would be golf. She often goes skiing with friends who mostly snowboard so she puts in her ipod and skis by herself. I asked her about travel and she said she would love to travel more but she would rather invest in a condo for a ski weekend a few times a year. She has tried one of the online services but she has had her fill of coffee dates. She looked at other online services and was surprised how many of the same men she found on several different dating sites. A girlfriend who is a client of mine has been encouraging her to call me and another friend has a friend who met and married her husband through Perfectly Matched. When her friend called her the other day to ask if she had called me yet she said “I held my arms up to the sky and said , I get it God, I am going to call Donna.” I said “I appreciate having your friends and God on my side.” She feels that most of the men she met through the internet were not serious about having a serious relationship and she knows she would love to be married again. She is frugal, a “4.5”, and said “I am prepared to take care of myself for the rest of my life. I can do that and live comfortably, but it would be so much more fun to share it all with someone.” She is going to consider which program she wants to invest in and she is coming back Monday to sign the contract. I have some great matches for her.

It is not always fun and games in the dating business and right now I have a female client who has caused so much drama and told so many lies and played so many games that I have offered to refund her money on her remaining matches. “Players” are not always men and this lady is definitely a player. A player is someone who does, acts, and says the same things over and over, no matter who they are dating, that is why they are called players. Players don’t last very long at Perfectly Matched because five different men cannot tell me the same stories when they don’t even know each other. The only common denominator they have is that they all met this lady. Feedback is how I get to know my clients and sometimes it is not all good but it certainly weeds out the players.

On a happier note, a client who met someone on her own and was “on hold” is now active again because he simply does not have time for a relationship. She was very complimentary about him and the time they spent together but the bottom line is she was like number five on his priority list. She said “I know when I meet men through you they are going to have the time to date or they would never have made the investment in your service in the first place.” So true, you meet serious minded people at Perfectly Matched, AND, I do all the work.

To be continued…….