May 9, 2011

My first appointment on Thursday is a “be back”, a lady I interviewed in February. She is mid 40’s, recently divorced from a long term marriage, educated, self employed, two teenagers at home, and her long term goal is marriage. She is a strong believer, although she does not go to church, she reads the Bible and prays daily. Previous to her marriage she dated bikers, musicians and police officers and thinks she is attracted to “bad boys”. I said “That is so not compatible with your scores and who you were attracted to over 20 years ago may not be who you are attracted to today.” She enjoys working out, four wheeling, walking, travel, line dancing, movies, shopping, bowling, hiking, fishing, theaters, plays, and volunteer work. She does not like attention or being in the limelight and prefers to do good deeds without anyone knowing who it came from. I love working with people who are just out of long term marriages or relationships and helping them date much more effectively than they would on their own. A real “bad boy” would take her out of her comfort zone so fast her head would swim.

My second appointment is a lady, early 40’s, widowed, grown children on their own, educated, a nurse, and her long term goal is marriage. I met her through a mutual friend who encouraged her to check out my service. She was in her late 30’s when she was widowed and her husband was killed in the war. She is petite, pretty, fit, sweet, and her long term goal is marriage. She was happily married and loved her husband very much. I told her what I tell anyone who has been happily married and widowed, how lucky she is to know what that feels like because she won’t settle for less as she moves on. She has traveled the world with her husband and kids, except for the Far East and Mexico. She would love to go to Napa Valley with someone special. She downhill skies, likes motorcycles, considers herself kind of a geek, loves musicians, hikes at least a couple of times a week, has never done the “incline”, but wants to. When I asked her what else physically was important to her she said “I don’t want a man who looks better naked than I do.” From what I can see, that would have to be a pretty good lookin’ man.

I had one appointment on Friday and I did not offer him membership. He was too young, 25, did not make a good first impression, came in with grubby work clothes, and I have no matches for him. I have a hard time convincing myself to book a man in his age range because I have so little activity in the 20’s and, as nice as he was, he is not ready for a serious relationship, never mind marriage.

Saturday was my youngest grandson’s first birthday and I did not have any appointments. Cash was one year old and there to celebrate his birthday was his mother and father, my daughter and son-in-law, his brother, my grandson, Jacob, my ex-husband, my daughters two best girlfriends, my significant other, my Dad and me. My Dad was not going to go because he said “It’s too much trouble with this oxygen tank.” I said “Dad, you may have that for the rest of your life, if you let it keep you from going somewhere, you won’t go anywhere.” I picked him up at 12:30 and took him back at 5:30 and he had a great time. His oxygen tank ran out and he said “Hon, come look at this. I don’t think I am getting any oxygen.” We quickly changed his tank and you can only imagine all the jokes we made in the five minutes he says he has before he would “croak.” That was my first time taking him out with the oxygen tank and it was no joke to me! I realized he knows exactly what is going on and how to handle the oxygen thing. He said “Let me tell you something, Dear, when your life depends on it, you figure it out real quick.”

To be continued……………………