November 2, 2010

My first appointment today is a man, mid 30’s, ABS, educated, tall, good looking, successful, and his long term goal is marriage and children. He is an only child and has a great, close relationship with his parents. I said “Do your parents bug you about getting married?” He said “No, I was very serious with a lady I dated for a couple of years and they were excited about the two of us getting married but, when the relationship ended it was obviously a good thing that we did not marry. As much as I would like to be married and have kids my parents have kind of taken my attitude of if it is meant to happen it will, if not, I am still going to have a good life.” I said “It is much more likely to happen if we work together.” He is a referral from a friend who is already a client and I met them when I was out to dinner recently and gave him my card. I don’t think he probably would have called me on his own but now I have an opportunity to work with him by starting with a complimentary introduction to a lady I interviewed the same day I met him. I said “I think you could be a good match for a lady I signed up just a few hours ago. If you come in for the interview and it looks like a match I will make a complimentary introduction.” He did, it looks like a great match and he will meet her in the next few days. We also agreed we might continue to work together if this match does not click. I don’t believe it was an accident that I ran into him and his friend, everything happens for a reason.

My second appointment today is a lady, mid 50’s, divorced, semi-retired and her long term goal is a committed relationship, possibly marriage. She has been in Colorado Springs for almost a year. I said “Why did you move to Colorado Springs?” She said “The sun, the mountains and the people.” She decided a couple of months ago she will only work if it is something she really wants to do and can have fun doing it. She said “I am in a position where I can do anything I want. I have worked since I was 13 years old, it’s my time to relax and spoil myself.” She has a passion for horses and although she does not have any horses now she applied for and got the job of carting people around in a horse and buggy for an event in Old Colorado city recently. She said “That was the most fun I have had in a long time!” She is an “8.5” in temperament (extremely easy going) and has to “think about” joining Perfectly Matched. I said “Of course do you” and pointed to her temperament score. She said “It is really weird how much you know about me because of these scores.” She is also a “5” in finance(budget minded) and I would guess her chances of joining are 50/50.

Feedback from a man who met a lady I introduced to him for the first time on Friday “We have already been on eight dates!” I said “What! You just met four days ago.” They met on Friday, had lunch and went to a movie Saturday afternoon, had dinner Saturday night, had lunch and dinner on Sunday, met for lunch on Monday, got together Monday night and saw each other for lunch on Tuesday. I had to mention to both of them my truest statement of all the statements I make about dating….the ones that start fast, end fast. I am afraid it’s a little too late for that one but also mentioned my three month rule…no sex for the first the months. They both said they are definitely in agreement on that not happening for at least three months. I am thinking here’s another 50/50 situation.

To be continued tomorrow………………….