November 8, 2012

I don’t know who is going to date in their own age range anymore.
I interviewed a lady in her 40’s who said “My experience has been that men in my age range want to date younger women in their 20’s and 30’s.”
Ladies in their 50’s and 60’s now say the same thing men in their 50’s and 60’s have always said “Don’t match me with someone in my age range, I wouldn’t find them attractive and they couldn’t keep up with me.”

Age is the least important thing if everything else is compatible; similar long term goals, shared interest and activities, the issues like smoking, drinking, kids, pets, education, income, intellectual compatibility and, of course, physical attraction. Physical attraction, other than it is the most important thing, is the least important thing.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When my clients call me with feedback on their first meeting I ask them on a scale of “0” to “10” how did this person appeal to you physically, the same person can be an “8” to one person and a “5” to someone else.

The two ways I see men and women limit themselves most is being too focused on physical attraction, and too hung up on age. That person you might dismiss in a nano second because you didn’t feel an immediate spark, could be the one who lights your fire. And the one who instantly takes your breath away, could be the one who breaks your heart. How they look on the outside says little about who they are on the inside. If you are more open minded about the type of person you are attracted to, you will have more options. I have seen little sparks grow into real, genuine, long lasting, physical attraction and I have experienced it myself.

As far as age is concerned, my experience has been that more than ten years, younger or older, is stretching it, and five years, younger or older, is most compatible. There are always exceptions to the rule but why limit yourself by not dating up to at least your own age, assuming the physical attraction is mutual.

I understand better than anyone how important physical attraction is, but I also know it only takes you so far. At Perfectly Matched what I do is opposite of what you do on your own, I start with all the things that matter and then plug in the mutual, it has to be mutual, physical attraction. When my matches are attracted to each other, there is so much more potential for success.

If you are single, emotionally available and serious about meeting the right person, you should come spend an hour of your time with me.

The interview is FUN! Do you know what your level of temperament is (easy going, or not), how out going or shy, are you nonconforming or traditional, are you affectionate and romantic, are you religious, or not, are you budget minded, or not. Imagine knowing that about someone before you even meet them and that is just the tip of the iceberg!

There is someone for everyone and it only takes one right one!

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To be continued……………………….