October 11, 2011

My first appointment today is a man, mid 50’s, divorced, highly educated, grown children and his long term goal is marriage. When I booked his appointment I thought I would have plenty of matches for him because he is tall, educated, and in an age range where I usually have good options for men. However, he has one preference that limits his options so much that I only have one possible match for him. He will not meet anyone who has pets, no dogs, no cats, no pets. I said “You realize you live in Colorado where almost everyone has at least a dog?” No matter how I approached it, he would not budge from his decision to not meet a lady who has any pets. As I went through my client base of ladies I said “On this side, I am going to put the ladies who would be matches if you were OK with pets and on this side, I am going to put the ladies who are good matches and do not have pets.” There were eleven ladies on the pets side and two ladies on the no pets side. That did not inspire him to change his mind. Actually, we eliminated one of the two ladies who has no pets because her interest and activity level was not compatible with him. He is an avid runner, bikes, hikes, practices yoga, plays golf, is a self proclaimed awesome cook and enjoys traveling. He has a great sense of humor and we laughed a lot in the interview. I said “I can call these ladies who are good matches and tell them if their pets die I have a really good match for them. Otherwise, I have one match for you.” He said “Find me a good match who is very health conscious, understands and desires emotional and physical intimacy and is willing to share expenses.” Then he put his credit card on my desk. I said “Good, you are going to be fun to work with and it only takes one right one.” He is a very easy going guy, a “9” on a scale of “0” to “10” so maybe he will lighten up on the pet thing over time. He does not dislike pets, he just does not want to deal with them in a relationship.

I should have known without looking there is a full moon tonight. I usually spend a lot of time on the phone receiving and sharing feedback on Tuesdays because many people meet over the weekends and I am closed on Mondays. After about a half a dozen phone calls I went to my computer to see when the full moon was and sure enough, it’s tonight. It definitely affects people’s emotions, I experience it every month.

I have two appointments tomorrow, both men, in their 50’s, and both sound like they will be very match able. Can’t wait to get their scores and see how many matches I have for them. One of them has already taken the profile test because he was dating a lady who is a client and she wanted to know how their “scores” compared so I sent her a test and he took it. Many of my clients take advantage of having me test someone they meet on their own. This particular couple decided to just remain friends and she encouraged him to come see me. I said “It will be fun to have you take the test again and see if your scores have changed.” My guess is they will be pretty much the same, they usually are even when I retest someone after several years. I believe in the scores. It cannot be a coincidence that the couples who continue to have success are the ones who have the most compatible scores.

To be continued…….