My first appointment today is a man, early 30’s, divorced, educated, financially secure, and his long term goal is marriage. He has no children, and he can go either way as far as having children.
He is a hard worker and a go-getter.
He said “I can easily work 65 to 70 hours a week, but I control my schedule, and I play just as hard as I work.”
He is very connected to his family and they enjoy traveling together. They go on cruises, take road trips in a fancy RV, and have a lot of fun together. He has also been to South America, almost every island in the Caribbean, Mexico and Trinidad. He downhill skis, water skis, mountain bikes, camps, works out at the gym, plays golf, does the Incline and likes concerts.
He said “It’s hard for me to just sit, I like to be moving and doing sometime most the time.”
He is a very good looking guy, so when I asked him on a scale of “0” to “10” how important physical attraction is it was no surprise when he responded with “9”.
He said “I feel bad saying this, but I am really picky when it comes to looks.”
I said “There is nothing wrong with being picky if you are being realistic, and you are a good looking guy. I am sure good looking women are attracted to you.”
He said “Can I see pictures of these ladies you are talking to me about?”
I said “As a rule, I don’t show pictures, but I will show you pictures.” I know when I have to prove to someone that attractive people DO go to a dating service.
I said “The problem with showing you pictures is you might feel differently when you meet her in person.” He agreed that could be true. Many of my clients give me permission to show their pictures and I could show him pictures of four of the ladies I think are good matches for him. He was attracted to three of them.
He said “This is great! It’s like seeing a buffet of women.”
He seems to be a really nice, down to earth, happy guy, not egotistical at all.
Before he called me, he called a national dating service in Denver and they told him he would need to be prepared to spend $2500 in order to book an appointment.
I said “What did you say to them when you initially called?”
He said “They just asked me my age and I told them I am 32.”
I said “They deliberately discouraged you by telling you the price because the only time they do that is when they don’t want to book the appointment. They probably assumed you were too young to afford their service.”
BIG mistake! In fact, he is my third appointment in a row under 33 years old. Twenty years ago I had the most activity in the 50’s. Ten years ago I started to see the most activity in the 40’s, and today I can see the trend of the most activity being in the 30’s. They all say almost the same thing when I ask them why they called a dating service…..”I want to be married, but I don’t want to be divorced.” Almost everyone they know is divorced, their parents, their siblings, their friends, their coworkers. They start thinking there must be a better way to find the right person and most of them Google “dating services” and call me.
Google has become my new best friend! I love having the opportunity to work with people who are young and smart enough to find a better way to approach making what will ultimately be the most important decision they will ever make…finding the right person to spend the rest of their lives with.
Google, Google, Google……….
To be continued……