September 14, 2010

My first appointment today is a lady, late 30’s, ABS, educated, and her long term goal is marriage. She is not interested in having children. She is the oldest of four children and she feels like she has already been a mother because she helped her father raise her siblings when her mother died. She was only fourteen and took on the responsibilities of cooking, cleaning and everything a mother would do. She was open to being a mother at one time but now she feels like it was her “destiny” to have that experience helping to raise her siblings. She has numerous nieces and nephews who love her to death so she stills feels some of the rewards of having children. She said “My sister has two kids and, although she is happy in her marriage, she says to me all the time “I want your life. You have so much fun and freedom. You get to go wherever you want, do whatever you want, and buy whatever you want.” She would be happy to meet a man who has children and be involved in their lives. She is a Colorado girl, born and raised in Colorado Springs, and she loves the Colorado outdoors, skiing, hiking, snowshoeing, mountain biking, and hunting trips with her brother and his friends. She doesn’t hunt, she cooks for them and they treat her like a princess. Another brother has horses that she enjoys riding. Her father wants her to go to Vegas with him once or twice a year, and she has a time share in the Caribbean that she visits two or three times a year. I said “Your sister is right, I want your life.” The ONLY thing missing in her life is the right man to share it all. Any volunteers?

My second appointment is a lady, early 60’s, widowed, retired, German, and a pretty darn cute personality. She could not believe she had called a dating service and was sitting there signing a contract and paying me money. She said “I NEVER thought about a dating service” but she has a friend who has a friend who met her husband through Perfectly Matched and she has seen and heard my ads for years. She has had one relationship since she was widowed. Her affection score is a “5”, on a scale of “0” to “10” and when I was sharing what her score meant I said “You can be affectionate and romantic but you are independent, you take your time, you need your space, and you would not be compatible with a man who would smother you.” With a smile, she said “I don’t know, I think I might like to be smothered, I have never had that.” I’m thinking there is a lot of potential for her affection score to grow.

I have not been giving Dad updates lately because he has been on a downhill slide, as far as his pain is concerned, for the last 16 days. Today is his first good day. Long story short, after three doctors, numerous x-rays, changing medications, and more x-rays his pain was mostly because of infection that was treated with antibiotics. I know he’s better because tonight he said “I know your mother is up there somewhere twisting that needle in my back but, damn, I think eight years is enough. I think I paid my dues.” He thinks my mother who died eight years ago is sticking it to him because of some of his past behaviors. I said “Tell her you’re sorry. Make peace with her, talk to her and tell her you’re sorry.” He said “I’d like to tell her to remember all the good things she had and take the (expletive, deleted) needle out of my back.”

To be continued tomorrow……..